Have a passionate love affair this summer

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Growing up is better than being young

Is 42 the new 22? Is being a 42 year old woman the ultimate in sexy? This article in Esquire, primarily geared toward male readers, shows lots of hot women in the best shape of their lives. Have we as women felt pressure to work out, get fit and be in buff shape as we move into middle age, so that we can stay sexy and be young forever or are we naturally staying younger because we eat healthier and maintain a better lifestyle? I am (gulp) ten years older than those 42 year old women. But I feel like I am in the best shape I have been in for a while, although I do go up and down, dramatically. But yoga and running, swimming and generally eating well, has actually created hard places in my body underneath the soft ones. And frankly, I am definitely sexier than I ever was. Have we underestimated a woman’s sexuality? Women in middle age have always known that sex is better in their 40′s, 50′s and I hope their 60′s too. Don’t let the magazines with the young girls on the front fool you. Growing up is better than being young. We finally have a voice, we can ask for what we want, and we know how to get it. And we are strong enough to take it for ourselves.

Esquire’s original: In Praise of 42-year-old Women

Slate’s response to Esquire’s piece on Women at 42, shows a somewhat comical look at men at 56. And yet I forwarded it to my 56 year old husband. Men at 56 are sexy. And regardless of the Hollywood fake tan set, most men in their 50′s know their way around a woman’s body, and they aren’t afraid to use it. Nothing fake going on there. And men in their mid 50′s have discovered something else important; they have feelings. They aren’t afraid to show those either. Many of them have had kids and some even have grandchildren, or the fantasy of them. And they have softened over the years. Or, if they are at the peak of their success, they are beginning to realize that money is not all there is to success. I would take a 56 year old man over a 35 year old man any day. A little pot belly over a flat stomach and a shallow mind any day.

Slate’s satirical response: In Praise of 56-Year-Old Men

Mary Roach – One of most popular TED Talks of all time!

I interviewed Mary Roach on the Imago think tank about her book “Bonk” and her research. Roach is hysterically funny and a brilliant researcher. I’m so glad to see her talk listed as one of the top 20 most popular TED Talks of all time!

If you missed our interview on the Imago think tank it’s available here.

Join the 12.5 million viewers of her TED Talk 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm

3 Reasons to Stay Together If Your Partner Cheats

If you have ever been cheated on, you know the pain and heartache that comes from betrayal. The hurt can last a long time, maybe even years. So why should you stay? Your friends and family will tell you “once a cheater, always a cheater.” But is that always the case?

These days, 65% of couples stay together after an affair. That’s almost two thirds of all couples who discover some form of infidelity. And many of those relationships not only survive, but do better after the shock of an affair. If both partners are willing to work on a new vision of a new relationship going forward, sometimes an affair can be a wakeup call.

In my latest blog for YourTango, I share three reasons why couples should stay together after an affair.

Would You Stay Together If Your Partner Cheats?

Review: USA Network’s new drama SATISFACTION

I was recently asked to screen an advance copy of USA Network’s provocative new original drama SATISFACTION that will debut this Thursday, July 17 (tomorrow!) at 10pm EST. As a sex and relationship expert, they asked me to take a look at the pilot and give some feedback on what I thought about this episode. As in most expert commentary requests I receive when asked by a producer or a journalist to review a show, I am always hesitant, what if I don’t like it? What if it’s trite, or boring? But, I have to admit, I really liked this one.

SATISFACTION was actually really accurate, intriguing and best of all, entertaining. It reminded me a little of Californication without the L.A. grunge glamour, with a touch of reality television, a plot I could relate to and a much nicer house than mine. And, the sound track was contemporary and hip and went great with the show.

The main characters are a married couple with a teenage daughter. (As a mom myself with teenagers at home, I could relate on a personal level.) The couple is struggling with stress at work, strain in their marriage and an ultimate monogamy crisis that is unique and will definitely spark lots of great conversations for anyone at home watching the show. I am anxiously waiting for the next episode, and debating if I should store them up and binge watch, or grab it right away to see what happens next.

I know if I was a consultant for the USA Network show SATISFACTION, I would use my influence to create deep drama and humor around the struggle of a couple that we can all relate to, and who find creative ways to mess up their lives and bring themselves back to one another. I think the producer, the director and the actors did a great job doing just that.

Find out more at Facebook.com/USANetwork; and join @USA_Network or @SatisfactionUSA using #AreYouSatisfied to share your perspective on Twitter. And don’t forget to tune in on Thursday nights beginning July 17. You can also visit USANetwork.com/Satisfaction to learn more about the series and its characters and the talented cast.

I really liked the show SATISFACTION and I am a pretty hard sell. Write to me and tell me what you think. Or better yet, come over for popcorn.