Are Negative Habits Holding You Back?

This article condenses negative thoughts and beliefs into three common habits that can prevent success. If you’ve ever felt held back by something and just can’t find the answer, it may be that the core problem is a negative habit. So many of us wish we could achieve our goals or find personal success, but never make a plan or we find ourselves set back by failure.

The three habits that can hold us back? Our self-defeating beliefs, lack of discipline, and being haphazard in our goals. I think lack of perseverance and an inability to self-motivate are also key issues that prevent people from moving forward, particularly when it comes to things that require practice.

In writing, getting your ideas down on paper for a book or an article is the first hurdle.

Often during the writing process people give up on a project they’re so close to completing because of doubt and discouragement. When I work with clients as a writing coach, I help them to move through doubt, and to write anyway. Sometimes persevering and writing a lousy first draft is a practice that helps motivate a writer to keep moving through the layout of a draft into a final manuscript or a proposal for a really great book. Giving up too soon because you cant see your way to a finished product is a habit that can be changed. Working through your doubt is a skill and can lead to success.

What other habits might be holding you back, and which ones do you need help with to move toward success and reach your goals?

A New Monogamy?

Rules? What are rules? They no longer apply.

Today marriage can mean many things. It may mean that you marry someone of the same sex. Or that you divorce before death do you part. It could mean that a cheating spouse wreaks havoc when they break your monogamy agreement. Or, it could mean that you make your marriage work in a way that is more open and honest — but may include more than one partner.

It seems like monogamy, traditional marriage, and being committed to one person, is downright old fashioned and even backward in some circles. Monogamy, in fact, has become synonymous with “traditional” (which somehow makes me feel old).

Is the younger generation today — what we call the millennials — really so fed up with being in committed relationships that they cannot tolerate being with the same person for longer than it takes to go online and find someone new? It turns out it may be more complicated than that: Read the full article on Huffington Post to learn more.

 

A New Hook-up Site is Challenging Sexual Labels

What is the ‘BRO’ phenomenon? Dr. Joe Kort writes about a new app for straight men who want to have sex with men and who are clearly not gay nor are they not bisexual. Until now there has been nothing in the online world of hooking up that connects men to other men that clearly states that straight men can have sex without the label of homosexual, or bisexuality. Is it possible for men to have these hook ups and not be gay? See what Kort, the author of “Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi?” has to say about it.

Janis Spring’s Telecourse Feb 19

I’m looking forward to Janis Spring’s upcoming telecourse “Don’t Ask Me to Forgive You! A Radical Approach to Healing Infidelity, Addictions, And Other Interpersonal Wounds”.

It will be held on GoodTherapy.org on Feb 19, 2016 from 12-2pm EST.

Check Out My Videos, Now on Youtube

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