Friday Funnies! Comedians Who Understand Your Crappy Love Life All Too Well

These comedians probably know entirely too much about your love life. My guess is they’ve lived through something very similar themselves. My favorite? Louis CK:

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10 Comedians Who Understand Your Crappy Love Life All Too Well

Recovering a Relationship after Cheating

Statistics say that most relationships will face infidelity at some point. The question is, does it have to mean the relationship is over? Is it irreparable? I believe many couples can redefine their relationship after infidelity and make it work if they have the tools and understand why it happened in the first place. I recently talked about how to survive it and maybe even make your relationship better than ever on the Dating Skills Review podcast, the #1 Men’s source for dating, sex, and relationship advice.

Listen online here: Recovering a Relationship after Cheating with Dr. Tammy Nelson on Dating Skills Review

For more guidance on recovering your intimate relationship after infidelity, contact me. If you are serious, you might be able to fix it in a day. Sign up for a couples intensive. It’s like a weekend couples workshop but with direct focus on your personal issues. An intensive can create dramatic and long lasting shifts in your relationship. Overhaul your commitment now: Click here

Fishes were first creatures to have sex as we know it

According to this article on Aljazeera America, we humans evolved from a species of fish, the placoderm. Another thing we can credit our fishy friends with is the act of penetrative sex for procreation. I wonder if they had as much fun doing it as we do?

Check out ‘Penetrating’ new findings on origins of sex

How to Save A Marriage After An Affair

Is the best way to make it work after an affair to totally end your relationship? Yes. But that doesn’t mean you cant make it work. Surprised? Check out this video I did for Kids In The House:

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Check out my Dating Skills podcast, “Recovering a Relationship after Cheating” with Dr. Tammy Nelson
Here’s an excerpt, but check out the whole thing for a great talk with Angel Donovan.

I think this is the first time in history you can cheat on your partner lying in bed next to them. We have a whole new definition of monogamy. I mean, you get married and you don’t say, “I promise to love, honor and tell you about all my Facebook friends and let you know when I’m tweeting too much with one person over another.” It’s a whole different definition of marriage, of committed partnership.

For over two decades now, we’ve still had the same amount of divorce in our culture; we’re still hovering at around 50%. But so many things have changed. We’re getting married at 28 instead of 18. We’re defining monogamy in a whole bunch of different ways. People know what polyamory means: “poly-” means “many”, “amory” means love – many love.

So we have this whole different language around marriage. We’ve never had the variety of possibilities that we have now. And it’s different than swinging in the ‘70s or having an open marriage. George and Nena O’Neill wrote the book Open Marriage in the ‘70s.

I think our focus on being parents and taking a village to raise our children will definitely change the way relationships look out of necessity. The technical piece of our lives, the sort of multi-attentive way we look at life, has changed the way we have this extended adolescence, so you don’t wait until marriage to have sex anymore because you’re 28 instead of 18. That’s changed how we approach marriage.

There were a lot of different ways to experience variety and excitement without breaking your monogamy bond. Pornography has never been as accessible as it is now, and perhaps people are using that to stay monogamous. It’s just a whole different twist on Internet monogamy that we’ve never had before.

So we can define it in ways we’ve never had to define it before. If that’s the case, if there are so many different kinds of relationships, we have to talk about it with your partner because there’s this implicit assumption that your kind of monogamy is the same kind as mine.

For more dating advice: Episode 71 of Dating Skills Review with Dr. Tammy Nelson

Infidelity in Marriage; What is cheating?

A wife finds her husband looking at pornography. A husband learns that his wife has been sleeping with their neighbor. A woman admits to her new boyfriend that she still talks on the phone regularly with her ex. Which of these examples involves infidelity?

The answer is: sometimes, all of them; other times, none of them. What defines infidelity first and foremost is the presence of a secret outside the relationship, whether online or in person, sexual or emotional. The common element in all affairs is the presence of dishonesty.

In this brief video clip from my interview with Rich Simon, editor of the Psychotherapy Networker, I explain how porn-watching habits, sexual liaisons, and even meeting an old flame for coffee can be considered infidelity. The definition of cheating depends on the level of disclosure and a couple’s prearranged definitions of monogamy—and where the indiscretion falls on the monogamy continuum.

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In the next Psychotherapy Networker Webcast series The Changing Face of Marriage, I will share tips on how to help struggling couples recover from affairs. This series also covers everything you need to understand about the new norms surrounding intimacy, marriage, divorce, boundaries, privacy, and related issues. Plus you get “how-to” guidance on working confidently and effectively in a landscape of changing attitudes from leading innovators Esther Perel, William Doherty, Pat Love, Terry Real, Joe Kort and myself.

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