Body image concerns have never been limited to just women, but it seems young men are increasingly experiencing body image shame. Imagery in modern media and entertain of bulging muscles and excessive masculinity have impacted our growing generations understanding of who they should be. A study out of University of Nebraska-Lincoln found that men who harbor body shame have less hope about social and romantic relationships. Read more about the study.
Linda and Charlie Bloom hit the nail on the head with their HuffingtonPost article After the Honeymoon Is Over. Relationships require effort and self-awareness, yet our culture teaches us that true love should be effortless.
“What if the object of relationships was not to eliminate or even minimize conflict but to work with it in an effective, responsible and conscious way? What if each breakdown that occurred between you held the seeds of the possibility of becoming a more loving and wiser person? What if your experience of your relationship had more to do with you than it did with your partner? What if there were no mistakes or wrong choices in the selection of a mate, and you really do have the perfect partner for the lessons that you’re in this relationship to learn?”
If you’re bored or unsatisfied in your relationship, or wanting to start over in a New Monogamy, it’s time to look at your contributions to the relationship and to your own happiness.
My dear friend and colleague Gina Ogden has once again published a remarkable book that will change how couple therapists approach their work. I had the honor of providing advance praise for the book.
“Every therapist should read Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy. Gina Ogden’s unique style combined with her ISIS research brings incredible, real-life clinical experience and data into the work to make her message dynamic, innovative, exciting, and practical. Sex therapy has until now been bogged down with old models of health care, pharmaceutical myths, and misinformation about relationships and couples dynamics. Gina is at the top of her field and knows what trained, certified sexuality therapists and couples therapists everywhere need.” – Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, Author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (in press); Board Certified Sexologist; AASECT Certified Sex Therapist; Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
You can read more about Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy and reviews from many other professionals on the publisher’s page. If you’re ready to purchase, Amazon has free shipping!
Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy
Another story of gender stereotypes that may not be true. A new study from Australia shows that women are far more interested in pleasurable sexual experiences than our culture will have us think. It’s a great discussion that I think is very important to have. Read the whole story and share your personal experience with me on my Facebook page!
Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a set of rules or instructions for having a perfectly satisfying relationship? I’m pretty sure that’s completely unrealistic! Psychotherapist and columnist Philippa Perry suggests that it’s unhealthy to approach a relationship in such a way – each person is unique, and therefore each relationship is unique, and approached with flexibility. Read her article How to Have Good Relationships. What’s your opinion?