Quick Tips: How Parents Can Maintain A Great Marriage

I posed an important question to our panel of YourTango Experts: What’s one thing that parents can do today to make sure they put their relationship first?

After all, you can’t raise happy kids if their core foundation isn’t rock solid; a healthy family is only as strong as the parents.

Repeat after me: Being a parent isn’t your only identity.

Sometimes, it seems as if being married today is a lot harder than ever. Whether it’s getting caught up in a super timely project for work, taking care of the kids or finishing chores, we’re all absorbed with our busy schedules.

We want to spend time with our spouses but things keep coming up and before you know it, “just ten more minutes” becomes a mantra in our marriage. And then we wonder why our relationship is in trouble.

Yes, it’s true that raising a family means putting in serious effort to keep the house tidy, put food on the table, as well as making sure that you take care of your kids’ needs. But as a wife AND a parent, it’s important that you also remember that your marriage is just as important — if not, more so.

Watch this video to see yours truly host a discussion with Imago Institute’s Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Tony Victor LCPC, Sue Butler LMFT and Certified Sex Therapist Kimberly Anderson about how you can maintain a great marriage. The good news is that isn’t as hard as you think!


For the list of 6 Quick Tips we came up with, click through to the article on YourTango.com.

Announcing: New In-Person AASECT Certification Supervision Group in New Haven, CT

I’m honored and excited to announce that I have launched a new in-Person AASECT certification supervision group that will meet at my office in New Haven, CT starting July 26!

Each group will meet for four hours, from 12 noon until 4 pm Eastern time. There are three dates to choose from: July 26, Sept 25 or Oct 23, 2015. Please indicate your choice of day at time of registration.

I have also extended my Online Group Supervision and have a couple of openings in two phone/online Supervision groups:

June 4, June 25 and July 9th Thursdays 10:30am to 12:00pm

June 1, June 15, June 29 and July 13th Mondays 3:30 to 5:00pm

Register for a group by emailing TammyNelsonAsst@gmail.com and reserving your spot here.

Working in a group setting with a PhD Board Certified, Master Level, Expert therapist, supervision will give you a chance to share your cases and hear ample feedback and receive interventions and direction from me, and from the group.

Each participant will have time to present cases, ask questions, and learn from other participants. Group discussion, experiential intervention and optional homework may include reading material, videos, and other suggestions for practice of hands on skills. Maximum participation is encouraged. All experience and backgrounds are encouraged to participate, and all dynamics and approaches welcome.

Supervision for beginners to advanced practitioners
Special topics and expertise include couples therapy, sexuality, infidelity
AASECT supervision for sex therapists and educators
Supervision for LPCs and other consultation available upon request

Justice RBG is at it again! This time, wedding gay men

We are expecting the decision on same-sex marriage from the Supreme court sometime in June. Until then, the media are watching every moment for a clue as to how the court may rule on Gay Marriage. It’s no secret that (the notorious) Ruth Bader Ginsburg is leading the charge in favor of ruling in favor of allowing gay marriage. If you were ever in doubt of her dedication to the cause, check this out: She officiated a wedding between two grooms, but the best part? Her “sly look and special emphasis on the word ‘Constitution,’ Justice Ginsburg said that she was pronouncing the two men married by the powers vested in her by the Constitution of the United States.”

It’s not easy being a Mompreneur

Many of you may or may not know that I did a series of informative videos for KidsInTheHouse.com about pregnancy, parenting, recovering from infidelity, etc. Today I want to congratulate creator ofKidsInTheHouse.com, Leana Greene, for her success as both an entrepreneur and as a Mom. As any working mother knows, balancing family and work obligations can be a daunting task. Being a mom and an entrepreneur requires extra dedication and even less sleep. Leana Greene has it together and she shared 3 tips for Success in both Business and Parenting for the readers of Success.com.

Read it here: A Mompreneur’s 3 Tips to Succeed in Business and Parenting

For more advice on parenting, check out this video fromKidsInTheHouse.com with advice from celebrities like Geena Davis, Arianna Huffington, Tiffani Thiessen, Ricki Lake and more.

Pay Attention to the importance of a healthy sex life

It’s Spring here in the Northeast – finally! Are you ready to break out of your Winter doldrums?

My personal affirmation for this exciting time of the year is “pay attention!” So much is happening so fast. From the hummingbird that hovered above my geranium on my back deck for a quick second, to my children who are growing up so fast, to the opportunities I can create in my life, I need to pay attention in a new way, a closer way.

Do you feel like an area of your life could use a bit more attention? Perhaps your sex life has taken a turn towards mundane? Sex plays an important role in your overall health and well being, so it should not be ignored. I explored how to break out of a sex rut with some of my colleagues in a recent YourTango video: The Best Way To Break Out Of Your Rut In The Bedroom.

I recently weighed in on the importance of a healthy sex life in a MedicalDaily article by Lizette Borreli: Use It Or Lose It: How Age, Hormones, And Masturbation Predict Sexual Health. The more sex you have, the more you want. Not sure how to up your game? E-mail me for an Individual or Couples Intensive session; I have two spots left this summer and can send you more information.

The bottom line is…get busy everyone and pay attention to what makes you and your partner happy. If you need guidance or support, I am here to help.