For Therapists

Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy is hot off the press!

My dear friend and colleague Gina Ogden has once again published a remarkable book that will change how couple therapists approach their work. I had the honor of providing advance praise for the book.

“Every therapist should read Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy. Gina Ogden’s unique style combined with her ISIS research brings incredible, real-life clinical experience and data into the work to make her message dynamic, innovative, exciting, and practical. Sex therapy has until now been bogged down with old models of health care, pharmaceutical myths, and misinformation about relationships and couples dynamics. Gina is at the top of her field and knows what trained, certified sexuality therapists and couples therapists everywhere need.” – Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, Author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (in press); Board Certified Sexologist; AASECT Certified Sex Therapist; Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

You can read more about Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy and reviews from many other professionals on the publisher’s page. If you’re ready to purchase, Amazon has free shipping!

Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy

Routledge Will Publish a Porn Studies Journal

Yes, there will be a scholarly journal dedicated to the study of pornography and it’s relation to culture, economy, history, institutions, legal and social contexts. This is a great improvement for the field of human sexuality and I’m looking forward to the first issue in 2014.

Porn Studies, to be published by Routledge, will critically explore cultural products and services designated as pornographic. My friend and colleague Marty Klein is on the editorial board. Do you agree that its time porn got its intellectual place in the field of mental health?

PTSD and Emotional Trauma Affects Partners Too

In this intriguing article, Ruth Buczynski presents new research that shows partners of veterans returning from combat suffered as much physical stress response as their loved one. I wonder if this could be true for other types of psychological stress or trauma like rape or violence? Trauma is a complicated experience and may be far more influential physiologically and psychologically than we previously thought. Have you ever worked with a couple suffering from PTSD? How were you able to help them? If you’re working with challenging couples, come to my Retreat in Santa Cruz June 28-30 and find out how to work with trauma and PTSD. Or join my latest teleclass with Gina Ogden and myself, Challenging Clients in Sex Therapy.

Erotic Recovery after Infidelity – Creating a New Monogamy

Announcing a new opportunity to learn with me, LIVE in Washington DC.
Erotic Recovery after Infidelity – Creating a New Monogamy
What are the newest forms of therapy for treating affairs? What doesn’t work? Why are some forms of affair treatment outdated and even contraindicated? How can sex therapy help couples after the trauma of infidelity?
Using theoretical models that work, this seminar will introduce research and interventions to help couples recover from affairs. Using case examples to illustrate how trauma and breaches of monogamy affect sexuality participants will learn how to help couples restore (or create) erotic energy after an affair.
The AASECT Forum will take place on Saturday, May 4th, at Whitman Walker Clinic in Washington, DC.
$30.00 tax deductable donation to AASECT.
Saturday, May 4th 1st, 12:00 – 4:00 pm
Noon to 1:00pm – Potluck brunch, socializing and networking
1:00 to 4:00pm – Presentation (3 AASECT CE Credits)

Special Workshop on Sexual Pathology, Infidelity and Divorce at CatalystCon East

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I will be presenting a special pre-conference workshop on sex and couples therapy before the CatalystCon East sexuality conference in Arlington, VA this March.

The workshop “Sex and Couples Therapy: Interventions for Sexual Pathology, Infidelity and Divorce” will take place Friday, March 15 at 1:00pm in the Crystal City Marriott at Regan Airport. CatalystCon East will officially begin Friday evening, with an Opening Reception at 6:00pm and Opening Keynote Plenary Address at 8:45pm.

Worth four CEUs, but open to professionals and non-professionals alike, this workshop will present therapeutic treatment interventions for pathological betrayals in sexual relationships including dilemmas of desire, monogamy and even divorce. The workshop will help participants shift into a new vision for their own work, for the therapeutic relationship, and for “a new future for monogamy”.

“The biggest dilemma in our society today is not bipartisanship in our US government but our own struggle with relationships at home. Most couples today face challenges in their marriages and committed partnerships that leave them feeling stuck, miserable and hopeless.

“More than ever couples are at risk for infidelity and divorce– let’s face it, it’s easier than ever to cheat – more than half of all couples do it, according to some studies. And now, fewer couples are married in the US than ever before. When asked, most couples think marriage itself is becoming ‘obsolete.’ And yet there is another way.

“Passion and aliveness is our birthright. We all want it, we all look for it. And we would like to have it with someone special. And I am here to tell you that it is possible. There is a new monogamy.”

For more information on this special pre-con workshop, visit: catalystcon.com/schedule-east/pre-con-east/#CEtherapy.

Tickets to this program must be purchased separately from the general CatalystCon registration (both available at catalystcon.com/register).

Created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality, CatalystCon East takes place March 15-17, 2013 at the Crystal City Marriott at Reagan National Airport in DC- adjacent Arlington, Virginia.

I will also be presenting a session at the conference on Saturday March 16, entitled “Healing and Monogamy”. Other sessions planned for the event include a look at Los Angeles’ controversial Measure B, which mandated the use of condoms in adult video production; a lesson on toxic toys; a discussion of sexuality for senior citizens; an explanation of California’s Proposition 35, which stigmatizes sex workers as “sex offenders” in attempt to fight against human trafficking; an informative session on helping educators effectively teach sexual topics and more. The full list of sessions may be found at catalystcon.com/sessions-east.

More than 70 speakers are scheduled to speak, including sex educators, experts, authors, academics and activists such as Ducky Doolittle, jessica drake, Joan Price, Carol Queen, Charlie Glickman, Constance Penley, Tristan Taormino and Rachel Kramer Bussel, plus Swedish sexuality experts Suzann Larsdotter and Malinda Flodman, who will present a history of sex education in Sweden. The complete list of speakers, with biographies, may be found at catalystcon.com/speakers-east.

Registration for CatalystCon East and my pre-conference workshop are both currently open and available at www.CatalystCon.com/register.

CatalystCon East takes place March 15-17, 2013 at the Crystal City Marriott at Regan Airport in Arlington, Virginia.

For more information visit CatalystCon.com or join in the conversation at Facebook.com/CatalystCon and Twitter.com/CatalystCon.

Announcing: New Trainings for Therapists and Couples

I have some exciting new trainings available for therapists and couples!

First Dr. Gina Ogden will be joining me for another powerful teleseminar series: Challenging Couples in Sex Therapy

Over the course of five tuesdays (Apr 23, 30, May 7, 21, 28, 2013) we will share with you five techniques for healing relationships. This is a practice-oriented teleseminar to address clients who challenge us—and clients who need to be challenged.

Registration is only $199 if you register by March 7, 2013

For more information and to register, go to the event page: CHALLENGING CLIENTS IN SEX THERAPY
Then Susan Mayginnes is joining me for three days of training at the beautiful Chaminade Resort & Spa in Santa Cruz, California – 2 day workshop for therapists and healers, plus a 1 day couples workshop!

Friday, Saturday ● June 28 and 29th, 2013
Creating Connected Couples – Using the new monogamy practice, Neuroscience research, attachment theory, Imago therapy, sex therapy interventions, tantric yoga and somatic healing, we will help you learn to work with couples to move them into more passionate connection, resolve long standing resentment, and find love again. Focus on your own personal effectiveness, challenge yourself to grow into your own potential as a healer, and transform your work to a higher level of conscious connection with your clients.

Sunday ● June 30, 2013
Creating Connection – In a safe and fluid environment designed especially for therapists, healers and their partners, we will explore the techniques you have learned directly in the training and use the approach to create a deeper connection through dialogues and somatic interventions. Bring a partner of your choice to practice new levels of connection and intimacy.

Space is limited for this workshop; previous attendance at the training is not necessary but recommended.

For more information and to register, go to the event page: CREATING CONNECTED COUPLES

Sex is a complex experience for women

Cindy Meston, PhD, has been diving into the complex world of women and sex in her research in her Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas at Austin. She teamed up with fellow Austin researcher David Buss, PhD to publish the book Why Women Have Sex (Times Books, 2009). The APA’s Monitor recently talked with Dr. Meston about her research with women and why their sexual experiences are so complex and varied. This area of research is very important for professional and public awareness.

Click here to read “Complex Sex” by Jamie Chamberlin.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

Ian Kerner, in his article on CNN Health, asks the questions in his review of a new book on Sex Addiction by David Ley, called The Myth of Sex Addiction.  Is sex addiction for real? Or is it “nothing more than a pop-psychology phenomenon, serving only to demonize sex, enforce moral views of sex and relationships and excuse irresponsible behaviors?”

“There are real dangers inherent in the sex addiction concept,” Ley writes.  And he may be right. 

Kerner quotes me, Dr Tammy Nelson and other experts in the field of sexology and couples therapy as well as addiction studies, to find out more about how sex addiction shows up in our society today.  Read Kerner’s article on sex addiction and decide for yourself, is sex addiction a myth?

http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2012/03/29/new-book-questions-the-myth-of-sex-addiction/

Or contact me at tammy@drtammynelson.com for more info.

Also check out my new teleclass on Sex On the Download to find out more info on sex addiction and the diagnosis and treatment of sex related problems that interfere with relationships both online and in real life.  Go to http://www.drtammynelson.com/live_teleclasses/ to find out more.

 

 

Sex on the Download: A Four part teleclass

Find out what is wrong and what is right with looking at porn on the internet and chatting with others on the internet.

SEX ON THE DOWNLOAD:
Part 1

 
A four part teleclass with Joe Kort and Tammy Nelson

“Sex on the Download” is a reflection of our current culture of internet relationships where the growing societal influence of connecting in cyber relationships can create real time intimacy, but may also lead to compulsive sexual behaviors, porn addiction and compulsive infidelity.

Is it inevitable that in the not too distant future we will ultimately download all of our intimate and sexual connections?

For some users, this time may already be here. And it may be effecting real life partnerships, jobs, and the ability to create healthy sexual connections.

Therapists, educators, sexuality counselors and medical practitioners will benefit from this training to assist anyone who uses the internet as a pathway to relationship, connection, sexuality or pleasure and who finds themselves caught in a web of cyber chaos, pain, addiction or crisis.

Learn direct interventions, insight oriented and nonpathologizing behavioral changes, and directed attempts to connect for couples and individuals. We will use lecture, case example and worksheets and handouts. Supervision, group discussion and ongoing support is included in this LIVE teleclass.

Four Tuesdays: Jan 25, Feb 1, 8, 15, 2011
12pm – 1pm EST

COST: $200 (student discount may be available)

Week 1 - Participants will learn to provide appropriate diagnosis of sexual disorders such as sexualcompulsivity, sexual addiction, porn addiction, compulsive infidelity and other sexual behavioral disorders that manifest as internet disorders. Is there such a thing as sex addiction? Is porn addiction real? Can it be something else? What is healthy use of the internet? Can pornography use ever be healthy?

Week 2Participants will learn ways to work with partners to accept responsibility for the repair of sexual dysfunction as it relates to object relations and personal sexual history. Work with couples to repair relationships after infidelity, after porn addiction, after betrayal or trauma. Move partnerships through specific stages of erotic recovery necessary for healing.

Week 3Participants will learn ways to address the nonsexual meanings of sexual behaviors or lack thereof including cracking the code of fantasy and desire as it relates to internet behavior. Learn ways to share fantasy with partners to decrease anxiety and bring erotic energy back in to the relationship instead of splitting it off to outside exits.

Week 4Participants will learn ways to explore their own countertransference, assumptions and assertions and the difficulties this presents in the treatment of internet relationships. The non-pathological use of theinternet is reflected in positively framed couples work using fluidity, intuition and sexual empathy.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, is a Certified Sexologist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Therapist and the author ofGetting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and lectures and trains internationally on sex and relationships. http://www.DrTammyNelson.com/

Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is a psychotherapist and Board Certified Sexologist who specializes in sexual identity issues, IMAGO relationship therapy, sex therapy and sexual addiction. He is the author of two books on gay male identity and relationships, Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician and has a chapter for female partners who are involved with men who have sex with men in Mending a
Shattered Heart
. http://www.joekort.com/

 

Go to http://www.drtammynelson.com/live_teleclasses/

 

COUPLES RETREAT

COUPLES RETREAT with Dr TAMMY NELSON

   At Casa De los Artistas, 10 miles south of Puerto Vallarta

March 12-19, 2011 – saturday to saturday

Getting the Love You Want – and Getting the Sex You Want – in one amazing week.            Workshop for three hours in the morning on a beautiful beach in a romantic fishing village.  All afternoon and evening is yours to enjoy the new intimacy and connection you will find in this amazing retreat!  Do you and your partner a favor and register today!

 

Register NOW to save $600 off total price.

To REGISTER CALL 413-625-8382

Costs include per couple – workshop, lodging, food, drinks, and all excursions as well as round trip ground transportation to and from PV airport