Monogamy : Making it Work
Beyond Biology and After Infidelity

  Are you struggling to navigate your own relationship?  Or do you watch your clients struggle to stay together and stay monogamous, remain passionate or even try to recover from affairs? This course can help.

The new monogamy is a fresh look at relationships with a view at our history, what works now and what isn’t helping. We will discover why we hurt each other while we strive to be happy and stay passionate and how we can stop. This course can help any couple recover from infidelity create the relationship of their dreams.

1-2 pm EST
May 29, June 5, 12, 2012

Cost: $149
Approved for 3 AASECT and Imago CEs

Infidelity Intervention Supervision

4-6 pm Eastern, June 26, July 17, Aug 21, Sep 18, Oct 23, and Nov 20, 2012

by Dr. Tammy Nelson

This class was so popular that we have decided to offer this again.  We are going to offer the Infidelity Intervention supervision teleclass as a once a month, two hour teleclass.  We will be offering  6 sessions – for over the next six months.  Join LIVE and have your case questions answered each week or listen to the download at your convenience.  Your emails will also be addressed directly as part of the supervision group.  Included in your costs are the group interaction with other members, after and in between each class. And if you send in an email with your supervision questions and cases, they can be integrated into each week’s course.

Sign up for ONE or all SIX months. Remember you do not have to attend each class LIVE, and each recording is your to keep and listen to at your leisure.  You will also receive downloads of reading material, handouts, worksheets, articles, references and other resources, as well as helpful projects from other students in the teleclass.

Also included in the series is a group interactive listserve where your case questions can be answered by Dr Nelson and all of the other professional colleagues that are attending throughout the series.  This can be invaluable for your process in working with infidelity.

Sign up for course now, either by the month at the regular low price of $99 for the 2 hour class, which includes the handouts and reading materials and the downloadable recording.  Or, if you register for all six months, pay only $594, payable by MC or Visa.

Dates for the Infidelity Interventions Teleclass are June 26, July 17, Aug 21, Sep 18, Oct 23, and Nov 20 and remember, join LIVE or listen to the downloadable recording at your leisure.

We can only accept Mastercard and Visa.

Affairs and Forgiveness

A two part teleclass presented by

Dr. Tammy Nelson & Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring

October 17 & 24, 2012 at 2pm Eastern

Approved for 2 CEs through AASECT & Imago

Cost: $99 (Save $25 if you register before September 15!)

After an affair, most couples struggle with issues around rebuilding trust, earning forgiveness, and moving toward a shared future. As a therapist, it’s easy to feel ineffective or lost in the treatment. Common dilemmas in affair recovery often surface around secret keeping, both in the therapy as well as in the primary relationship. Forgiveness can be a stuck place as well. In this class we’ll learn how to help couples work through these major stumbling blocks. This two-part class will address questions such as:

After an affair:

• is it best to work with partners individually or as a couple?
• how are secrets managed in couples therapy?
• what are the advantages and disadvantages of revealing an affair?
• how can partners constructively talk about the details of the affair?
• what does it mean to forgive?
• is forgiveness necessary?
• can trust be rebuilt (in cyberspace and in the flesh)?
• how do couples work towards forgiveness?

This two-part workshop will provide a radical model of treatment for affair recovery and provide concrete exercises for guiding couples through the healing process.

Teleclasses are easy to join Live or to listen to Anytime - MP3s and exercises for couples included FREE. Call from anywhere in the world. Call-in numbers are provided on registration. Registrants immediately receive recordings of all sessions, even if they cannot attend in person.

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., ABPP, is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. Her book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, has sold more than 500,000 copies. A completely updated second edition with a new chapter on affairs in cyberspace will be released September, 2012. She is also author of the awarding-winning, How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, and Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent. www.janisaspring.com 

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, is a Certified Sexologist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Therapist and the author of Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together and the upcoming The New Monogamy: Redefining Relationships After Infidelity. Dr. Nelson lectures and trains internationally on sex and relationships.  www.DrTammyNelson.com

Advances in Couples Therapy: Treating the Untreatable – Sexual Desire, Infidelity, & Divorce

Five Session Teleclass with Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson

Five Tuesdays: October 16, 23, 30, Nov 6, 13, 2012 —  12-1 pm EST

$249 total ($50 discount if you register before Oct 1, 2012)

This program is approved for 5 CE credits through both AASECT and Imago. These CE credits may be applied toward certification and renewal of certification.

Join two world-renowned sexuality and relationship experts for another exciting and rewarding course exploring clinical perspectives and interventions for the really tough situations of couples struggling with desire, affairs and even divorce. Using case examples and hands-on interventions, this teleseminar will focus on the seemingly hopeless crises and make-or-break stalemates, and will provide tools enabling both the therapist and client to shift into a new vision for the couple – and a new future for the therapeutic relationship and marriage.

Throughout the course, participants will receive case consultation and supervision while directly posing their questions and concerns to Ms. Perel and Dr. Nelson.

We will address how to:

• Create a safe, culturally informed, non-judgmental therapeutic environment to work with confidentiality, transparency, revelation, privacy and truth-telling.
• Help couples negotiate their sexual styles, take emotional risks, learn sexual communication, define monogamy and discuss attachment maps, while also examining the paradox of love and desire in long-term commitment.
• Process accountability and re-envision a post-affair relationship, explore erotic recovery, erotic blueprints and sexual empathy, including case examples and interventions.
• Help couples end outside affairs with integrity, decide when divorce is the best option, teach how to leave with integrity and address self-esteem and shame as separate partners.

Recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel, LMFT, is the author of the international best-seller, Mating in Captivity. Fluent in nine languages, she is a master trainer, lecturer and workshop leader invited around the globe for her expertise ranging from couples therapy and intermarriage to culture and sexuality. Esther holds an active psychotherapy practice in New York City. www.estherperel.com

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, is a Certified Sexologist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Therapist and the author of Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and the upcoming The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity, and lectures and trains internationally on sex and relationships.  www.DrTammyNelson.com

The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

“The New Monogamy takes an honest look at infidelity
and illustrates a clear path towards healing after an affair.”

Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means-and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner.

Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want.

The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.

BUY your  AUTOGRAPHED copy today by clicking below !

*Note: This offer is only available to persons in the continental U.S.
For international orders, please email Tammy at tammy@drtammynelson.com for additional postage rates.

What To Do When One of You Cheats

A two-part teleseminar by Dr. Tammy Nelson
12pm U.S. Eastern time
Tuesdays, June 18 and 25, 2013

This two hour teleclass with an expert in infidelity recovery will address some of the most important issues that affect anyone struggling after an affair. Whether you are still in a relationship or struggling on your own, whether you have been cheated on or you are the one who had the affair, this course can help you to understand why it happened and what you can do now. This course will show several concrete interventions for anyone recovering from an affair to help move into a new vision of monogamy.

There are many ways to create monogamy in a committed relationship after infidelity, and there are significant differences in the ways that men and women can create the future after an affair. Part two of this course will help participants define the terms of their erotic monogamy and focus on issues around trust, forgiveness, erotic recovery and how to create a long term vision of recovery.

Therapists and other professionals will learn direct interventions for couples and individuals directly applicable in all three phases of affair recovery, post infidelity. Professional participants will also learn how men and women’s treatment interventions differ and how trust and differentiating new monogamy agreements can create a vision of long term commitment and recovery.

Week One: What To Do When One of You Cheats

Do you stay up nights wondering “Why did they do it?” Or, maybe you know why it happened, but you are wondering “Can I make it work?” Maybe all of your well meaning friends and family are telling you to leave, but you’re confused.

Can you recover from infidelity? Good question. Now there is a place to go for answers. Dr. Tammy Nelson is an internationally recognized speaker and leader in the field of human relationships, sexuality and monogamy. And the author of The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.

This two hour teleclass with an expert in infidelity recovery will address some of the most important issues that affect anyone struggling after an affair. Whether you are still in a relationship or struggling on your own, whether you have been cheated on or you are the one who had the affair, this course can help you to understand why it happened and what you can do now.

Anyone who has gone through the trauma of an affair has questions: How do you trust again once your partner has cheated? Should I forgive them? Can we really make it work? Should I stay or go? Why did this happen?

What if you’re the one who cheated, how do you end the outside affair? How do you know if you are ready to make a re-commitment to your spouse or current partner? How can you help your partner learn to trust you again? Should you make your email and phone messages transparent? Can you talk about the affair once it’s over?

And the big question; What about sex? How do you ever recover sexually? Will you ever feel safe again? Do you need to trust each other to have sex? How do you create a new monogamy agreement going forward? Can you create a new vision of a relationship for the future?

All of these questions and more will be addressed in this teleseminar. Therapists and other professionals will learn direct interventions for couples and individuals directly applicable in all three phases of affair recovery, post infidelity.

Week Two: Women and Men Who Cheat and Why They Do It

Men and women cheat at about the same rate. Surprised? This class will explore why women cheat and what they need to recover from affairs.

Do women cheat for emotional reasons or is that a myth?

Do men cheat just for sex or are they looking for connection in their infidelity?

What are the unique reasons that men cheat, why is it different than women? Is there such a thing as a mid-life crisis affair? Why do more men seek out sex workers?

Is female infidelity caused by low self esteem? Why do they have difficulty hiding their affairs?

Did you know that both of you must learn to change lifelong patterns and overcome the temptation, perpetually, to be in a cheating relationship? And for some men and women, cheating can even be hereditary.

This course will show several concrete interventions for anyone recovering from an affair to help move into a new vision of monogamy.

There are many ways to create monogamy in a committed relationship after infidelity, and there are significant differences in the ways that men and women can create the future after an affair. This course will help participants define the terms of their erotic monogamy and focus on issues around trust, forgiveness, erotic recovery and how to create a long term vision of recovery.

Therapists and other professionals will learn how men and women’s treatment interventions differ and how trust and differentiating new monogamy agreements can create a vision of long term commitment and recovery.

• Special Offer: If you sign up for both this and the Women & Sex class, you can have a discounted price of $67 for this class (please complete your purchase of the Why Women Cheat class, then email us for a special link to get this one at the discounted price: tammynelsonasst@flexibleasst.com).

Women & Sex

A two-part teleclass by Dr. Tammy Nelson
12 pm U.S. Eastern Time
March 26 & April 2, 2013

This course is a unique opportunity for women of any age and background to have direct support and insight from a top expert in the field of sexuality. Dr Nelson is an internationally recognized speaker and leader in the field of human relationships and erotic monogamy.  Send in your questions and help other women on the call who might be worried about the same thing you are!

Week 1: Women’s Sexual Questions and Confessions

Do you wonder how to have a more intense or passionate sex life? Do you want a deeper emotional connection and at the same time reach greater heights in bed? Would you like to have multiple orgasms? Do you want to become a more mature sexual person and maintain a youthful enthusiasm for sex? Do you want to communicate your inner fantasies? Do you even know how to access them?

Most women have questions. This course will answer real questions from real women about sex. Anyone who signs up for this course will have the opportunity to email their questions in advance. These questions will be integrated into the course or responded to directly prior to the class.

Some questions that women ask that are typically covered include:
What if sex hurts? What if it’s boring? What if I can’t orgasm? What if I don’t feel safe? Do I really have a G-spot? What if I want to be more submissive (or dominant) in bed? How do I seduce a new partner, or a long term one? How do I move into a new level of Fifty Shades with my partner? And what is that squirting thing, is that real?

Nothing is too personal or can’t be covered in this course. Dr Tammy Nelson is a down to earth, licensed sex expert and author with many years experience working with a wide range of sexual issues – and there is nothing she hasn’t seen or heard in her almost three decades of clinical work. Don’t be shy, send in your questions today!

Week 2: Women’s Sexual Questions and Confessions, Part Two

Week Two will continue with women’s sexual questions and their answers. We will delve deeper into some real confessions about what women are most afraid of. What if my partner is no longer attracted to me? What if I don’t feel desire for my partner? What if I am too tired for sex? If we never have time for sex, how do I share my fantasies? How do I know my fantasies are normal? Are my genitals normal or should I get plastic surgery to correct them cosmetically?
Most women want to know if they are “normal.” Join the conversation and add your confessions to our course. You may find that your fears are the same as many other women’s deepest concerns. And with an expert sexologist and experienced psychotherapist to answer even your most embarrassing questions, you may find that nothing you can ask cannot be answered on this class.

Anyone who signs up for this course will have the opportunity to email their questions in advance of Week Two. These questions will be integrated into the course or responded to directly prior to the class.

•  Special offer: If you sign up for this class AND the Lesbians & Sex class with Michele O’Mara – you can register for THIS class for only $67.  Offer expires March 25th.

(Please complete your purchase of the Lesbians & Sex class, then email us for a special link to get this one at the discounted price: tammynelsonasst@flexibleasst.com).

This teleseminar explores how to address the choices and challenges that arise in couples therapy while helping a couple heal from infidelity.

• Week 1 – Oct 13, 2010 – Participants learn how to intervene in impasses resulting from discrepant sexual desire, sexual routine, pursuer-distancer dynamic, power struggles, lack of intimacy, cybersex, and de-sexualizing of partners. Purchase Separately ($50)
• Week 2 – Oct 20, 2010 – Participants learn how to design creative interventions to unlock erotic blocks stemming from shame, fear,guilt and trauma. Purchase Separately ($50)
• Week 3 – Oct 27, 2010 – Participants learn to help couples negotiate their sexual styles, and take emotional risks to open up sexual communication about boundaries, fidelity and monogamy. Purchase Separately ($50)
• Week 4 – Nov 3, 2010 – Participants learn to help couples negotiate their sexual styles, and take emotional risks to open up sexual communication about boundaries, fidelity and monogamy. Participants also learn how to identify three patterns in the way couples reorganize themselves after an infidelity. Purchase Separately ($50)

These programs meet the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and each one-hour class is approved for one (1) CE credit. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification. Download will be available immediately after payment.