CREATING CONNECTED COUPLES

 A Training for Therapists, Coaches, and Healers

June 28 – 30, 2013

Includes One Day Workshop for Professionals & a Partner

At the beautiful Chaminade Resort & Spa
in Santa Cruz, California ● www.chaminade.com

Presented by Master Trainers Dr. Tammy Nelson & Susan Mayginnes

Costs:

$795 for therapists training only

$1295 includes therapist training AND the couple’s workshop

$500 for a couple to attend couple’s workshop

$250 for individual to attend couple’s workshop

Fee includes CEs, workbooks, refreshments, and special discounts do apply for the Chaminade spa and resort. This cost does NOT include the room or transportation to and from the resort.

Imago and AASECT CEs available, MFT California CEs available upon request

•  If you register by April 1 APRIL 15 (early registration deadline extended), enter coupon code “Chaminade100” to save $100 off your registration cost!!

Two Day Training for Therapists, Coaches, and Healers

Couples therapy is the most difficult work you will ever do. Do you ever wish you had more advanced skills, better interventions and more insight into those really tough cases? Do affairs, sexual issues and long term and perpetual conflicts leave you feeling hopeless?

It’s easy to doubt yourself as a therapist. This training will help you work with couples to create more connected and intimate partners. We will focus on sex, affairs, betrayal, trauma, desire, intimacy and all the skills you need to work on the tough issues.

Participants will:

• Understand how to generate deeper connection and handle conflict with ease;
• Learn somatic strategies for healing;
• Learn how to use Imago relationship therapy and other dialogue techniques for communication;
• Discover how to teach couples to increase intimacy and passion, resolve long standing conflict and create deeper levels of empathy.
• Understand how you, as the therapist, can shift your clients in one or two sessions.

Using Neuroscience, attachment, Imago, tantra and somatic healing, we will help you take your couples to places they may never have dreamed possible. Watch years of stubborn displacement fade away in only moments of treatment. Help couples move into more erotic connection, resolve long standing resentment, and find love again.

Focus on your own personal effectiveness, challenge yourself to grow into your own potential as a healer, and transform your path.

One day Workshop for Couples; Professionals and a Partner

In a safe and fluid environment designed especially for therapists and their partners, we will explore the techniques learned in the training to create a deeper connection for you in your relationship.  Bring a partner of your choice to practice new levels of connection and intimacy.

This workshop is a unique opportunity to advance your personal skills in a safe space. Create a vision of your future and create a new monogamy-a partnership you have only dreamt about.

Space is limited for this workshop; previous attendance at the training is not necessary but recommended.

Tammy Nelson, PhD

Tammy Nelson, PhD is a sex and relationship expert, author and international speaker. She is a world renowned expert in relationships, a psychotherapist in private practice, and speaks internationally on sexuality and human relationships.  She is a Board Certified Sexologist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist.   She is the author of several books including, “What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia,”  “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, “ and the upcoming “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.”

She has been a featured expert in Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, New York Times, Washington Post, Healthy Life Magazine, Shape, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Health UK, Twist Magazine, and a source in Time Magazine.   She writes for the Huffington Post, YourTango.com, ThirdAge.com and several blogs on relationship issues as well as www.drtammynelson.com/blog and can be followed at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Getting-the-Sex-You-Want/

Dr Nelson is on the International Advisory Board of Sex Coach University as well as being a Master Faculty member, and she is the founder and primary faculty instructor for the Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, training professionals in the field of psychotherapy, sexuality and human development via Teleclasses and webinars offering  cutting edge topics in the field of human relationships.  Tammy gives workshops and Intensives for couples and trains psychotherapists around the world on global relational change.

To connect with Dr. Tammy Nelson or find more info go to http://www.drtammynelson.com

Susan Mayginnes, M.A.

Susan has led workshops and trainings for over 30 years with many thousands of clients and couples focusing on conscious relationship, personal effectiveness, and emotional intelligence. She was Director of Training for a large personal development company for 17 years and developed 15 trainers to lead programs facilitating transformational work.

Susan works privately with organizational leaders, individuals and couples, as well as conduct workshops and trainings at the senior executive level of organizations and runs coaching groups for CEO’s. She is certified in Neuro-Linguistic Processing, mind/body integration, emotional integration, Psych-K and personal inquiry developed by Byron Katie, known as “The Work.” She is a Senior Fellow of The Hendricks Institute, developed by Drs. Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks with advanced certifications in Conscious Relationship and Body Centered Psycho-Therapy. She holds a M.A. with a special focus on leadership psychology.

Susan’s focus is transformational work that integrates mind, body and spirit. She synthesizes a variety of approaches and modalities to create work that is individually tailored for each client or couple.

The underlying intention of her work it to alter the ways we relate to our own thinking, to people and to events so that we can have fewer and shorter unpleasant experiences and more frequent, longer lasting joyful experiences. By making internal shifts, things begin to move naturally to their appropriate resolution, without struggle.  She encourages her clients to step out of unconscious, habitual ways of thinking, feeling and acting and open up to what is actually true now. As a result, previously unimagined possibilities and new-found creativity begin to emerge.

NEW! Gina Ogden and Tammy Nelson team up to bring
new information from their latest books!

CHALLENGING CLIENTS IN SEX THERAPY

Five Strategies for Healing Relationships

A practice-oriented teleseminar to address clients who challenge us—and clients who need to be challenged

A Teleseminar for Health Professionals

Five Tuesdays
Apr 23, 30, May 7, 21, 28, 2013

 Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT www.GinaOgden.com

& Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC www.DrTammyNelson.com

All sessions meet by telephone from 12:00-1:00 pm US Eastern Time. Call from anywhere in the world.

 Call-in numbers are provided on registration. Registrants immediately receive recordings of all sessions, even if they cannot attend in person.

Entire series: $249 (only $199 if you register by March 23, 2013)

Fee includes 5 AASECT CE credits, exercises, worksheets, references, resource lists, group email support, individualized attention to participants’ supervision issues, and the option of case consultation.

April 23—Strategy One: Communication

How partners talk and listen to one another is key to their long-term sexual happiness.  Neuroscience now shows that certain forms of conversation can open new pathways to erotic connection and intimacy. This class introduces specific dialogue techniques, which are developed by top experts in couples therapy and based on proven research and brain science.

April 30—Strategy Two: Confrontation

Many sexual relationships fail because they are conflict-avoidant.  This class focuses on innovative confrontation skills, anger management, trauma resolution, and recovery from crisis in intimate relationships-including approaches to help high-affect clients and couples with intense reactivity.

May 7—Strategy Three: Facilitation

Physical injury, sudden illness, and long-term cancer recovery can cause retreat, resentment & guilt  in sexual partnerships. This class looks beyond physical therapy to offer sex therapy techniques and other creative guidelines for helping individuals and couples retrain their unique erotic sensitivities-physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.

May 21—Strategy Four: Negotiation

Affairs, infidelity, open marriage, and other forms of monogamy agreements can challenge the therapist as well as the couples who struggle to define their sexuality.  The focus of this class is on negotiating a vision of a new monogamy, beginning with expanded self-esteem and compassionate understanding, and adding creative techniques that lead to erotic recovery.

May 28—Strategy Five:  Self-Actualization

One of the most challenging scenarios for therapists is when our clients’ issues trigger our own personal traumas-past and present.  This class is about taking care of ourselves by stepping into the vital archetype of the Wounded Healer-calling forth our abilities for empathy, power, and creating healthy boundaries for both ourselves and our clients.

Lesbians and Sex: Lesbian Relationships, Sexual Challenges and Dilemmas

A one-hour teleclass with Dr. Michele O’Mara & Dr. Tammy Nelson 
12 pm U.S. Eastern Time
April 9, 2013

Cost: $49 (includes 1 AASECT and Imago CE, handouts & resources)

Get an unprecedented peek into the sex lives of contemporary lesbians, and develop a current understanding about lesbians and sex!  Join Dr. Tammy Nelson and author and expert Dr. Michele O’Mara on this informative and fascinating teleseminar; a glimpse into the lives of women who love women.  Dr. O’Mara’s extensive research into the sexual lives of 398 lesbians reveals the intimate truths behind female relationships and reveals some surprising truths important not only for lesbians and their partners, but for any therapist or professional working with individual and couples, and for anyone who knows and loves a woman.

TARGET AUDIENCE: This is a great resource for lesbians, social workers, therapists, OB/GYNs, life coaches, spiritual advisers, and others in the care of lesbians.

GET ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS!

·         How do lesbians define sex?

·         What are contemporary lesbians doing sexually?

·         How frequently are lesbians having sex?

·         How does the length of a relationship affect sex and relationship satisfaction?

·         How satisfied are lesbians with their relationships?

·         How important is sex to lesbians?

·         What is most important to lesbians in relationships?

·         How does age affect lesbian sexuality?

Michele O’Mara, PhD, LCSW, Certified Sexologist, Certified Imago Therapist

As the developer of an online social network for lesbians, a series of personal growth classes for lesbians and a lesbian couples workshop provider, Dr. O’Mara is passionately committed to the personal growth of all lesbians, near and far, thanks to Skype!

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, Certified Sexologist, Certified Imago Therapist

The author of Getting the Sex You Want:  Shed Your inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and The New Monogamy:  Refining your Relationship After Infidelity, and lectures and trains internationally on sex and relationships.

SPECIAL OFFER: When you register for this class, you are eligible to register for the Women & Sex teleclass at a $30 discount! After you’ve completed this purchase, please email us at tammynelsonasst@flexibleasst.com to get a special link to take advantage of this offer!

Love & Death in Marriage & Affairs:
Reconciling Love and Hate in Committed Relationships

A two-part teleseminar by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring & Dr. Tammy Nelson

June 13 & 20, 2013
1-2pm Eastern
Cost: $97
(register before May 15 & save $20!)
Approved for 2 AASECT & Imago CEs

What no one talks about: our deepest resentments and secret fear that we really hate our partner and that our marriage is dead.

• How does our beloved become our worst enemy – the most annoying person in our universe?
• How can we contain and reverse the catastrophic dullness we experience in marriage?
• What tools can we offer to our patients (and ourselves) to keep love alive and juicy?
• How do couples reconcile after an affair when there’s more uncertainty, hurt, and despair than love?

Week One: Overcoming fear, dullness, anger, and the death of passion
Week Two: Fostering acceptance, gratitude, and an enduring connection

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., ABPP is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. Her book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, has sold more than a half million copies. Dr. Spring is also author of the award-winning, How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To, and Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent. www.janisaspring.com.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, is a Certified Sexologist and a Certified Imago Therapist. She is the author of Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and The New Monogamy; Redefining Relationships After Infidelity.

Just Relax! Understanding Sexual Pain & Anxiety

A two-hour teleseminar by Talli Rosenbaum & Dr. Tammy Nelson

Available June 11, 2013, as MP3 files

$99 (approved for 2 AASECT CEs)

Painful sex and the inability to experience vaginal intercourse are complex concerns that many sex therapists, medical professionals, lay people and others who treat couples and individuals need to understand more about. Learn about the various causes, treatments and alternatives in this introductory course. This two-hour course for therapists and health professionals will address sexual health and function, the pelvic floor, and the roles that pain, anxiety and cultural factors play in the dynamics of relationships. This course will focus on the problems and solutions for pain and anxiety during sex and the ways that these issues impact relationships. We will cover vestibulodynia, vaginismus, unconsummated relationships, and couples who report, “we can’t have sex” for a variety of reasons related to complaints about sexual discomfort.

Part One: Understanding and treating sexual pain disorders

Vaginismus and dyspareunia (pain with intercourse) are understood to have multi-factorial components. Traditionally, medical professionals deal with the physical aspects of the disorder while sex therapists and psychotherapists address the psychological aspects, including anxiety and aversion. This workshop will present some of the difficulties with this compartmentalization model and introduce an integrated, mindfulness based treatment approach more useful to medical professionals, physical therapists, and sex therapists.

• What are the differences in the terms vulvodynia, vaginismus, dyspareunia and pelvic floor dysfunction?
• Are these problems physical or psychological and who should treat them?
• What is pelvic floor physical therapy?
• What is the psychology of the pelvic floor?
• What is the role of mindfulness in treating sexual pain?
• How does psychotherapy play a role in treating sexual pain?
• What way can couples therapy help successfully move treatment forward?

Objective: Participants will be introduced to the multi-factorial nature of sexual pain and to mindfulness based treatment protocol to address anxiety and aversion in women with sexual pain disorders

Part Two: Exploring the dynamics of anxiety and pain – Unconsummated Relationships and Sexual Aversion

The scientific literature pertaining to unconsummated relationships relates specifically to sexual function, whether vaginismus of the female partner, or premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction of the male partner. However, the unconsummated relationship is not simply about sexual dysfunction. As a sociological phenomenon, unconsummated relationships and sexual avoidance may be related to societal expectations, partner dynamics and systemic anxiety.

• What are the common causes of unconsummated relationships?
• What are the common ways couples present in therapy?
• What roles do culture and belief systems play?
• What role does anxiety play?
• What are the ways in which we can help our clients presenting with unconsummated marriage and sexual avoidance?
• How can we reframe the perception of therapy as necessary to achieve the” goal “of having sex, to a mutual journey of intimate exploration?

Objective: Participants will be introduced to a biopsychosocial approach to the phenomena of unconsummated marriage.

Talli Yehuda Rosenbaum, M.Sc., PT, IF, is both a physical therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist, who is an internationally recognized expert on the integrated roles of physiotherapy, sex therapy, and couples therapy, in the treatment of sexual pain disorders and unconsummated relationships.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC, is a Certified Sexologist and a Certified Imago Therapist. She is the author of Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and The New Monogamy; Redefining Relationships After Infidelity.

Excite and Inspire Each Other for a Lifetime of Passion

A proven couples counseling method applied to sex for the very first time.

Communication problems can erode a relationship in and out of the bedroom. This guide takes a proven communication method, which has been used to counsel millions of couples, and applies it to sex for the very first time. The Imago Relationship Therapy, which was pioneered by Harville Hendrix in the national bestseller and self-help classic Getting the Love You Want, shows readers how to understand and build trust with their partners through a unique form of dialogue.

Getting the Sex You Want teaches readers how to build sexual communication skills quickly and connect with their partner in a new way. Couples learn exercises that enable them to communicate their sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in their relationship.

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BIG News! Getting The Sex You Want has been re-released in an updated paperback version!

Preorder paperback on B&N (Available December 1, 2012)

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Book Reviews:

“Tammy Nelson takes you safely by the hand and leads you into the erotic world of passionate sex. The pace is just right, the facts are friendly, and the process powerful. This book is thorough, timely, and long-awaited. Get it, read it, enjoy it!”
-Patricia Love, Ed.D., co-author, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

“Utilizing the principles of Imago Therapy as outlined by Harville Hendrix, Tammy Nelson invites long-time couples to reinvent their intimacy and cultivate an erotic atmosphere that will sustain them for years to come. Couples who have given up on having a vivid, exciting sex life together will reawaken or newly discover an intensity they may have never known before.”
-Eve Marx, best-selling author of The Goddess Orgasm and Read My Hips: The Sexy Language of Flirtation

“This book presents life-changing information in a straightforward, step-by-step manner that is easily accessible to couples interested in deepening their physical and emotional connection. Whether in the early stages of a relationship or well into a long-term one, this book provides a variety of ways to increase passion, encourage sexual curiosity and experimentation, and give you both the sex you want.”
-Helen Brown, Spa Director, Mayflower Inn and Spa

“Getting the Sex You Want” is a straightforward and fearless guide to both the mysteries of eroticism and the importance of sexual risk-taking in committed relationships. At the same time it is a deeply compassionate exploration of the role of sexual empathy and generosity in helping couples forge an enduring emotional connection. No book I have read has more clearly laid out how enhancing a couple’s erotic bond can lead to profound psychological healing for both partners.”
Jette S. Simon, Director: The Washington DC Training Institute for Couples Therapy.

 Get your signed copy here!

$13.25 + $5 shipping

Sex, Desire and Emotional Intimacy:
New approaches to old dilemmas

A 90-minute teleseminar for professionals

by Dr. Tammy Nelson & Dr. Marty Klein

Thursday, June 14th,  2pm – 3:30pm EDT

Every therapist deals with issues of desire, arousal, and intimacy. And every therapist is familiar with the complicated dynamics of power, trust, and safety that make these issues as complicated (and personally challenging) as they are. In this 90-minute seminar, two leaders in the field of sexual relationships will discuss how you can overcome the obstacles that all couples present as they struggle to create intimacy in their relationships. The topics covered will include performance anxiety, avoidance, jealousy, control, distance, and negotiation. We will examine the common, recurring relationship themes and narratives that all clinicians face, redefining them in ways you can use immediately – with a practical new understanding that you’ll value both personally and professionally.

We will discuss the common myths about sexuality and how they impact our lives. This class is for anyone looking to enhance their sexuality, as well as for therapists, counselors, medical practitioners and any helping professionals looking to improve their practice with clients.

Listen LIVE or download the recording at your leisure.  CEs available for AASECT and CAMFT.

Registration:  $59 – includes your attendance during the 90 minute live call, the recording of the call, as well as handouts and resources.

***Get 10% until June 4, 2012***

Teleseminars can be joined LIVE or downloaded at your convenience.

Getting the Sex You Want
Three part class with Dr. Tammy Nelson
2-3 pm EST — June 19, 26, July 3
Cost: $149
Approved for 3 AASECT & Imago CEs

This class is appropriate for couples & individuals looking to improve their erotic lives as well as therapists & health care professionals.

This teleclass will discuss ways that couples and individuals can use the newest research in love and desire to create a passionate connection in relationship. There are studies that show that couples who have a satisfying sex life have lower rates of divorce and report higher levels of satisfaction. These couples may also have fewer affairs, seek outside erotic stimulation less often, and bring home their sexual needs and desires more commonly than couples who are dissatisfied with their erotic life. This class will help participants understand what it takes to express needs, fantasies and desires and why that can decrease anxiety in the partner as well as the partnership. Find out how to access that fantasy life and more importantly feel comfortable sharing it.

In this course:

• Participants will learn ways to re-sexualize long term partnerships
• Participants will learn ways to create the erotic connection they truly desire
• Participants will learn how to increase sexual generosity and the paradox of giving to get
• Participants will learn about sexual empathy and how to deeply love again
• Participants will learn ways to communicate fantasies with a partner about what they really want and need

• Week 1 – Define Sexual Dependency Syndrome as it relates to sexual addiction, internet addiction and pornography addiction Purchase Week 1 Separately ($50)
• Week 2 – Assessment & Differential Diagnosis Purchase Week 2 Separately ($50)
• Week 3 – Interventions, strategies and empathic treatment for sexually disordered patients Purchase Week 3 Separately ($50)
• Week 4 – How countertransference can interfere w/ treatment Purchase Week 4 Separately ($50)