12 Traits of Happy, Loving Couples

Here on my blog we often talk about relationships that aren’t working out well, but today I want to focus on those with happy, loving relationships. A happy, long-lasting relationship requires more than love, sweat and tears. I found this great article from relationship expert Charles J. Orlando on HuffingtonPost (originally published on YourTango) and I’d like to share it with you.
12 Commandments Of Happy, Long-Lasting Relationships
A few of my favorites:
2. Honesty and trust. Being honest is mostly an individual decision, based on self-worth, self-confidence, and knowing you/your actions are accepted — even with flaws and mistakes. Trust follows when each person has undeniable faith that they can believe the other person — unequivocally.
3. Respect. Many people confuse attention with respect. Attention is great, and it shows love, desire, connection, and passion. Respect is a deeper level of connection, where you value the person at an innate level, without the promise of reciprocation.
5. Staying present. Technology is ever-present in our world — and it transfers to our relationships. Mobile devices, social media, and technology overall makes it easy to mentally check out from where you are and who you’re with physically. Successful couples recognize that technology is a tool for their individual and joint use, but it doesn’t disconnect them from their relationship.
10. Maintaining your individuality. A successful relationship is made up of two individuals. Your partner still has interest in things they like, whether you’re interested in them or not. Having your own lives outside the relationship not only contributes to each of you maintaining a sense of self-worth and self-esteem, but also gives you things, accomplishments, and interests to bring back to your relationship and share with your partner.
12. Consideration and gratitude. The moment you’re no longer grateful for your partner is the moment you start disconnecting, becoming complacent, and/or building resentment. Show consideration to and appreciation for your partner — just for being who they are. They, in turn, will feel grateful as well, and that’s a great cycle to be in.
How many of these “commandments” are present in your marriage?

2 Responses

  1. Sylvia Madrigal
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    Yes!!! Gail and I worked hard on all those things. Keep up the good work, Nelson! People need to hear your voice! I know I do!

    • Tammy
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      Thank you Sylvia, for your comment. I appreciate your voice!

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