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How Sexting Improves Your Relationship
August 20, 2015 – Keep it interesting, Sext. A new study from Drexel University recently revealed that 8 out of 10 people surveyed online had been sexting with a partner over the prior year, and that the more they sexted, the greater the levels of satisfaction sexually they experienced, particularly for those sexters who were in relationships. Read the article on YourTango
Marriage On The Rocks? Watch THIS Before You Do Anything Rash (Video)
July 16, 2015 – DON’T run straight for divorce. When you first place that ring on your spouse’s finger, your marriage seems similar to the hundreds of Rom-Coms you watch on your weekly Netflix binge. It’s fun and the love is deep. Watch the video on YourTango
3 Reasons To DUMP Your Partner When They Cheat
June 15, 2015 – It’s not me … It’s you. Yes, more people than ever before are cheating. With the internet it’s easier than ever to find an outside partner, to explore erotic interests, or to find sexual stimulation with someone other than your spouse or committed partner. Read the article on YourTango
Jenner’s Journey To Transgender: The Courage To Be Yourself
June 6, 2015 – Being transgender is not a choice- Wearing a fake persona is. Vanity Fair recently announced that they will be releasing a photo spread in their July issue of Caitlyn Jenner — formerly known as Bruce Jenner — the 1976 Olympic gold medalist. The gorgeous cover photo, photographed by Annie Leibovitz who is best known for her photos of rock stars and artist types, shows Bruce in his new persona as Caitlyn. Read the article on YourTango
This New Dating Site Promotes “Ethical Cheating” (Yes, Really)
May 7, 2015 – What is ‘ethical cheating’? Is it OK? We have so many questions …. OpenMinded is a new online dating website for, both, men and women who are in open relationships and looking for outside partners. Brandon Wade, the creator, calls it a “Dating Site for Ethical Cheaters.” The site launched in April as a space to find non-monogamous relationships. Read the article on YourTango
Why Joking About Bruce Jenner’s Transition ISN’T Funny
April 21, 2015 – Bruce Jenner is a former Olympian, better known these days for his very public marriage to Kris Jenner. This is Bruce’s third marriage, soon to be third divorce. He is the father of six biological children… Read the article on YourTango
5 Ways Sex Makes You AWESOME At Your Job (Says Science)
April 9, 2015 – Great sex just makes everything better — including your career. Research shows that people who have more sex at home with their partner are more successful at work and do better in their careers. Read the article on YourTango
Can This New Type Of Couples Counseling Save Your Marriage?
February 24, 2015 – Therapy gets an upgrade; holistic approach means more integrity in your relationship and more sex.
In today’s world, going to couples counseling when your relationship is falling apart is like going to the Shaman or the healer in the old days when we lived in tribes, and the ancient elder held the key to lighting fires, making rain and resolving interpersonal conflicts. Read the article on YourTango
Into 50 Shades Of Grey? Don’t Do These 3 Sexy Things In Real Life
January 29, 2015 – You want to have kinky sex and hot S&M role plays but could it put you both in danger? I see couples every day in my office committed to improving their sex life. As the author of Getting the Sex You Want, and The New Monogamy readers turn to me to find out how to spice up their love life, or to rekindle their marriages. And sure, I advise them to have a sex date, or create some adventure. Read the article on YourTango
Waiting For The Future? Now Is The Time To Have A Confident Life
January 9, 2015 – Who do you want to be in the New Year? Be that person now! Want to do something? Do it today. I woke up and it was the future. It was a new year. There were no hover cars, and no jet packs. But that is the only thing missing. When I was little, 2015 was the real future. I saw it on television, on the Jetson’s. It was the time to be an adult with confidence and a life full of my childhood dreams. Read the article on YourTango
How Did You Know About His Affair? Maybe You’re Psychic
December 6, 2014 – Most of us have an intuitive sense that we either dismiss or tell ourselves is just our “imagination.” But sometimes that intuition is telling us something important about our relationship; perhaps even insight on whether your partner has or will have an affair. Read the article on YourTango
Miserable In Your Marriage? 3 Signs That Divorce Is The Next Step
November 7, 2014 – When all else fails, leaving your spouse might be the only good option. You have been thinking about leaving your marriage for a while. Tossing and turning through each sleepless night, you struggle with one burning question: “Should I leave?” Here’s what you need to know before you make that final decision. Read the article on YourTango
Would You Stay Together If Your Partner Cheats?
July 14, 2014 – If you have ever been cheated on, you know the pain and heartache that comes from betrayal. The hurt can last a long time, maybe even years. So why should you stay? Your friends and family will tell you “once a cheater, always a cheater.” But is that always the case? Read the article on YourTango
6 Steps To Moving Past An Affair And Reclaiming Your Lost Love
July 2, 2014 – For many couples, an affair feels like the absolute end of the marriage or committed partnership. And for some it is. An affair can be what I call a “can opener,” or a good excuse to end the relationship. But for other couples, staying together might mean hard work and a renewed commitment to one another, … Read the article on YourTango
Can An Affair Ever Be Positive?
June 17, 2014 – After an affair, the betrayal of trust and the deep hurt can be traumatic. Intrusive thoughts, pictures of your partner with someone else, and the anger toward the one who cheated can all ruin what once felt like a deep, connected partnership. Yet some couples seem to stay together after one partner cheats. How do they do it? And are they really happy? Read the article on YourTango
Want To End Your Marriage? Try Conscious Uncoupling
March 29, 2014 – Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin just announced their “conscious uncoupling”, but what is it? Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin just announced their “conscious uncoupling” and it has brought up new questions for some people and a media conversation about what endings might look like in a long term, committed partnership. Read the article on YourTango
Is Technology Ruining Your Sex Life?
February 1, 2014 – Couples who lead happier, sexier relationships don’t text. They don’t gamble online, they don’t pick fantasy football teams. They don’t spend a lot of social network time on their hand held devices. They take the time instead to increase their physical and emotional connection with their actual real time partner. Not surprisingly, these same couples have more sex, and better sex than most couples. Read the article on YourTango
4 Things She Only Tells Other Men (Contributor)
February 6, 2014 – You might only have one girl in your life, but she’s seeing a lot of guys. And while the pairings are strictly platonic, you could still have some reason for concern. Why? Your partner’s telling her father, brother, and other guys things she hasn’t ‘fessed up to you. Maybe her secrets would bruise your ego, maybe she’s shy, or maybe the two of you just aren’t “there” yet. Here’s what she spills to the other men in her life, and whether or not you should worry. Read the full article on MensHealth.com
How to Put the Sex Back into Your Relationship (Contributor)
January 8, 2014 – Between work, errands and life in general, relationships and sex can drop to the bottom of the priority list. Big mistake. “Studies show that couples who have an active and passionate sex life stay together longer, report less conflict and divorce less often,” says sex therapist and author of “Getting the Sex You Want” Dr. Tammy Nelson. Read the full article on Fox News Magazine
Sex and Lies
November 18, 2013 – Open any online newspaper or news magazine today and the headlines scream two things; sex and lies. Sex sells, but so does lying…In government like in marriage, like in all of life, conflicts start with a power struggle. We are pathologically committed to proving that our side of the story is the “right” side, and we will go to great lengths to prove to the other that their side is the “wrong” side. In marriage, there is no greater example of this power struggle than the battle for monogamy. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
I Caught Him Looking At Gay Porn! Is He Gay? (VIDEO)
November 2013 – If he is watching gay porn does that mean he likes anal sex? Are there secrets in his past? YourTango Experts Tammy Nelson and Dr. Joe Kort discuss what it means when men prefer gay porn. Is there a double standard for men and women when it comes to homosexual pornography? Watch the video on YourTango
Is A Little Jealousy So Wrong? (VIDEO)
November 2013 – Jealousy never feels good — but is it really all that bad? Some people think it helps keep the spark alive, and it might also point to a potential deeper issue that needs to be addressed within a partnership. In a new video, relationship experts Debi Berndt, Robert Maldano, Tammy Nelson and LiYana Silver sat down with YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman to discuss the issue of jealousy in relationships. Watch the video on YourTango
Are You Perpetually Single? (VIDEO)
October 2013 – Why do some people stay single? Is it because there are no available men (or women!), or does the reason go a little deeper? Our past relationships, fear of rejection and insecurities could be stopping us from finding lasting love. Relationship experts Tammy Nelson, Debi Berndt, LiYana Silver and Robert Maldonado sat down with YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman to discuss this hurdle so many singles face. Watch the video on YourTango
What Makes Monogamous Couples Tick? (VIDEO)
October 2013 – Are we biologically equipped to spend our lives with one person? Is monogamy even realistic? Our changing culture and values (not to mention longer lifespans!) are making a committed relationship seem harder than ever, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a happy, faithful and fulfilling marriage. Relationship experts John Gray, LiYana Silver, Debi Berndt and Tammy Nelson dished with YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman about what makes couples really go the distance. You may even find that your committed relationship is better than it was when you were casually dating! Watch the video on YourTango
Infidelity: What’s The Key To Forgiveness? (VIDEO)
October 2013 – If your spouse has had an affair, you may feel that you can never forgive him. However, holding onto a grudge can fill you with toxic emotions that are harmful to your recovery and healing. Empathy and selflessness can help you find peace with yourself and your partner. What’s the key to true forgiveness? YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman tackled this question and more with relationship experts Debi Berndt, John Gray, Tammy Nelson and LiYana Silver. Watch the video on YourTango
Getting the Sex You Want (RADIO)
October 16, 2013 – Why is it vital for you to have a great sex life with your partner, for your own well-being and a stable relationship? And what can you do to get the sex you want? Dr. Tammy Nelson, sex and relationship expert and author of Getting the Sex You Want, answers these questions and more on Extactica Radio
What is Sexual Freedom?
October 8, 2013 – You may not know that your sexual rights are at risk. In this day and age, we can text naked photos of ourselves, we can marry who we want and we can freely express our sexuality in the privacy of our homes, so it might seem like our personal sexual freedom is safe. Isn’t sexual freedom something we already have? Do we need an organization in this country to protect and fight for our sexual rights? Apparently, several hundred people in downtown Washington D.C. think we do. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
Why Do Women Cheat? (VIDEO)
September 2013 – In a new video for YourTango, Senior VP of Experts, Melanie Gorman, sits down with relationship experts John Gray, LiYana Silver, Debi Berndt and Tammy Nelson to ask a tough question: why do women cheat? The panel discusses whether there’s a different driving force behind why men and women are unfaithful: do men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotional reasons, or are things a bit more complicated? Does our biology have an impact on our ability to avoid an affair? Check out the video above to find out the answers. Watch the video on YourTango
Who Has More Sex?
September 2013 – Do married or single people have more sex? Who has hotter nights, partners or players? Read the full article on YourTango
6 Steps Back to Sex
September 26, 2013 – One of you cheated. And now, you are wondering if you can ever get past the hurt and betrayal. You miss each other. You want to stay together. You are not sure you can ever get back to the sex you once had together. Normally, you would turn to your partner for sex, for comfort, for love and support. Yet, they are the one who hurt you, so you turn away from them instead of toward them. It is a lonely and confusing time. Yet, if you are lucky and committed, the two of you have made a decision to stay together and have decided that you want to work on your relationship and heal your intimate life. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
The Beginner’s Guide To Sharing Fantasies Through Dirty Talk
August 2013 – We all talk dirty in our heads. Now let’s actually verbalize what we’re thinking! Read the full article on YourTango
Does Weiner Deserve Privacy?
August 2013 – Mayoral candidate for the city of New York, Anthony Weiner, admitted Thursday last week to having three online affairs, after he quit Congress for being caught sexting naughty photos of himself and his, forgive me, his wiener, to what he admits now are anywhere from “six to ten women.” Read the full article on YourTango
5 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage Before It’s Too Late
July 23, 2013 – Preventing an affair now while you can is the key. There are five ways you can do it and if you start today, it may not be too late. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
3 Signs You Might Be Having An Emotional Affair
July 2013 – Emotional affairs are very real things. In fact, over half of all emotional affairs start out innocently as online friendships. More than 70 percent of those friendships or flirtations will end up as real time affairs. So how do you know if you are having an emotional affair? Read the full article on YourTango
How To Have An Affair … In Your Relationship
June 2013 – Want to learn the best three ways to cheat on your partner … with your partner? Read the full article on YourTango
Is Safe Sex Boring Sex?
June 2013 – Stepping out of your comfort zone is the key to better sex. And that makes sense. The safer we feel the more likely we are to open up and let our partner in, both literally and figuratively. And yet the safer we feel, the less likely we are to feel turned on by our partner. Familiarity doesn’t turn us on. It makes us want to snuggle. Read the full article at YourTango
Case Study: Women Who Cheat
May/June 2013 – Even though our ideas about sex and sexuality have greatly advanced over the last half-century, our culture still holds a double standard about infidelity. While no one is entirely surprised by the behavior of a Bill Clinton, an Elliot Spitzer, or a Tiger Woods—men will be men, after all—we still tend to pathologize women or shame them (or both) for having affairs. Read the full article on The Psychotherapy Networker
Was It Our Sex Life That Made You Cheat?
May 24, 2013 – What was really happening in your love life before the affair even began? Read the full article on the Huffington Post
The Beginner’s Guide To Sharing Fantasies Through Dirty Talk
May 2013 – Ever want to talk dirty to your partner but aren’t sure how to do it? Are you shy and don’t know the words to use that won’t offend them, or make you feel silly? Or maybe you’re thinking about the sexy things in your head that you want to do to your partner and you would love to say them out loud, but you don’t have a clue how to begin to verbalize them. Read the full article at YourTango
Don’t Let Your Wife Cheat on the Day After Mother’s Day
May 10, 2013 – The biggest day of the year for female sign ups to AshleyMadison.com, the website for married people looking to cheat, is the day after Mother’s Day. Why? Perhaps Mom feels disappointed. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
The One Thing All Mothers Really Want For Mother’s Day
May 2013 – The best gift ever: showing her that you appreciate her this Mother’s Day. Read the full article on YourTango
Never Say This To A Friend Who’s Been Cheated On
May 4, 2013 – Your friend calls you in the middle of the night, crying. She sniffles and barely manages to say, “He did it again. He cheated!” You hold your breath because you aren’t sure what to say. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
Can A Retreat Save Your Marriage?
April 2013 – Laura was contemplating the end of her marriage. She and her husband Bill had been married for eighteen years, and had two young children. The marriage was not in a major crisis, but was definitely in ‘maintenance’ mode. Laura wondered if their relationship was in a rut, or if her marriage was heading for divorce like half of her friends and neighbors. Read the full article on YourTango
The Six Steps Of Recovery After An Affair
April 11, 2013 – Does infidelity always have to mean the end of the relationship? Here are six steps that will help you move through the aftershocks of an affair so that you can recover your equilibrium as a couple. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
The One Thing That Will Save Your Relationship After An Affair
April 2013 – You may have noticed that not feeling appreciated was a big issue for both of you long before the affair—this is more common in couples than you might think. Read the full article on YourTango
Why Did The Affair Happen?
April 1, 2013 – Often, when we discover that a partner has been cheating, the first question is an anguished “Why?” Read the full article on the Huffington Post
Is An Affair Ever Forgivable?
April 2013 – When your spouse has an affair, it can feel like the most unforgiveable transgression. How do you ever get over something that hurtful? But what if some affairs are justified? What if both partners think that the affair has meaning and that the cheating is for the best? Is that a fairytale or could it really be true? Read the full article on YourTango
Can I Get Over An Affair? The Three Phases Of Recovery
March 23, 2013 – The immediate response after discovering a spouse’s affair is commonly disbelief, anger, sadness, loss or grief. However, it is possible to move on and rebuild after infidelity. I have identified three distinct phases of recovery from an affair. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
What Is the New Monogamy?
March 2013 – The new monogamy is a new way of looking at marriage and committed relationships. Most of us have followed a path to commitment that was provided for us by our culture and upbringing. We were taught what a committed relationship should look like, and we assumed that this was the only way to have a real partnership. Read the full article on YourTango
Adultery: To Forgive Or Not To Forgive Your Spouse
February 2013 – You just found out that your partner cheated and right about now you are probably wondering “Can I ever forgive him?” All of your well-meaning friends and family are telling you to “Get out now while you can. Once a cheater, always a cheater!” But there is a part of you that wonders if leaving is the best option. You think, “Maybe there is something salvageable here.” Read the full article on YourTango
Three Reasons Women Cheat
January 2013 – Let’s face it; cheating is not just a man’s game. Studies say that up to 45% of women and 55% of men will cheat at some point in their marriage. That means that about half of everyone will have an outside relationship with someone while they are committed to someone else. And these statistics show clearly that it’s not just the guys who are doing it. Read the full article on YourTango
Sex After an Affair: How to Recover
January 24, 2013 – Erotic recovery is a fundamental part of healing after an affair. If you choose to stay together for now, working on your sex life will be vital to your healing process. Read the full article on the Huffington Post
Got Monogamy? Recovering From Infidelity
January 10, 2013 – Affairs can be painful and shocking and can cause betrayal and hurt. Yet some couples do recover. Read the full article on the Huffington Post