We tend to think of anxiety over sexual performance as a problem men suffer from and may have to deal with on their own. The truth is, women also experience performance anxiety, often related to their belief that their partner expects perfection from them in bed. According to research when perfectionism is perceived in a partner or imposed by society, it can create a devastating chain reaction. Women experiencing this pressure tend to have low self esteem, decreased arousal, and negative emotions toward their partner.
The good news is women setting goals for themselves in the bedroom tend experience an increase in desire and a positive self image when it comes to their own sexuality and that of their partner. Women who are supported by their partner and confident in their desires feel empowered in all areas of their lives, including their erotic self esteem. Communication between partners and realistic expectations can allow both to cut loose and have fun. Check out my book Getting the Sex You Want to find out more ways to communicate your fantasies and create some patterns of positive erotic self esteem in your sexual lives.
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