A New Permissive Monogamy

Can we really have it all? A committed partner or spouse and sex partners on the side?

It’s a delicate balance; finding a marriage that works and exciting, adventurous sex. But how does one cross the line and venture into the stormy seas of an “open marriage” without losing the safety of a monogamous partnership? Is sex with someone other than your spouse really worth the risk? And how do you even bring up the topic?

Monogamy is a much bandied about word these days. In reality, it is simply a legal term. It means being married to only one person, versus polygamy, which means being married to more than one person. The implicit monogamy assumption within a marriage, however, is that we will only have sex with our spouse. Yet many of us have a hard time making that monogamy agreement work. Rates of infidelity vary, but researchers say that anywhere from 20% to 65% of men and women will cheat at some point in their marriage.

Today, couples are finding new ways to deal with the struggle of staying monogamous and desiring sex outside of their marriage that don’t involve lying or hiding their behaviors. To find out more about the ways people have found to renegotiate their monogamy agreement, read the full article at Huffington Post.