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I recently read an inspiring article in The Guardian about several women who are working at the radical edge of sex positive feminism, called “ The Pleasure Revolution .” I was particularly struck by this line: “#MeToo was about men imposing their pleasure on women. The pleasure revolution is about women asserting their own pleasure.” Time to Claim Our Right to Sexual Pleasure Women, it’s time. Time to assert our rights to our own sexual pleasure. Throughout most of history,

A lot of people are in relationships that they like, with partners they are attracted to, who want sex and enjoy intimacy. But life gets...

According to Ashley Madison’s recent survey, only 67% of both men and women said they felt comfortable telling their sexual fantasies to their spouse, while nearly all (95%) said they talked about their sexual fantasies with their affair partner. Most of the survey respondents also said they were more sexually adventurous with their affair partners and comfortable talking about sex during their affair. It would make sense that to have a sexually fulfilling marriage or ongoing

Has technology changed the way we view sex? The increase in technology has changed not only the way we view life, but who we are as people. The use of smart phones, computers, smart watches and other hand held devices has already turned us all into partial-hybrid-humans. As cyborgs sporting robotic extensions of our own bodies, high tech non-permanent partial attachments to our limbs, we are obligated to check in, to post, to swipe, to update, and to check out, almost all the

Not getting the sex you want is never an excuse for violence Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you wanted to have sex but you didn’t have a partner and had trouble finding one? If not, you may have trouble understanding the mindset of a group of men who are now calling themselves Incel, which stands for involuntary celibacy. Many people have trouble making or maintaining sexual connections with others. Most of the time, those people simply deal with their rea

I clicked on my email and opened the 30 Second Newsletter . I don’t have much time so it helps me to catch up on the important things. I found the following gem about setting slightly terrifying goals in order to be successful. It occurred to me that there is a relationship between risk-taking and, well, successful relationships. Slightly terrifying goals “You should only be 60% sure you are going to achieve your goal. It should make you sweat a little when you think about i

In the wake of the #MeToo movement, many people are asking if sex addiction is real. Is out of control sexual conduct and compulsive or erratic sexual behavior a sigh of a “sexual addiction?” Does being sexually inappropriate and acting, reacting or perpetrating against someone sexually mean that, regardless of the circumstances, that person is not responsible for their actions if they are a “sex addict?” Does the label “addict” give someone an excuse to continue or excuse th

A sexless marriage is not hard to define. If you are in a marriage that clearly has not been erotic or sexual for long enough that both of you feel deprived, you can classify it as “sexless.” How Sexless Marriages Develop I recently gave my expert opinion on recognizing the signs that you may be headed toward (or already in) a sexless marriage. Often it has been so long since you have had sex that it feels almost impossible to get back to it. For some couples this may be sev

Recent articles (like this one by Ian Kerner on CNN ) have been talking about the phenomenon that people in the U.S. today are having less sex than in previous decades. Why Are People Having Less Sex? A variety of reasons have been identified for the decrease in sexual activity. One reason? Parenthood later in life means people have less energy to both parent and to have sex, especially since modern parenting includes more direct involvement in children’s lives. Health is a

Photo by Laurenz Kleinheider on Unsplash How do you feel about porn? I don’t mean whether or not you personally consume porn, but rather — do you approve of it? Are you okay if your partner watches it? Masturbates to it? Do you watch it? Is it part of your relationship? Have your feelings ever undergone a shift in relation to pornography? For many, porn is a hot-button topic. You either hate it or you love it. You either approve of it or you think it’s going to ruin marriage

By Guest Author, Scarlett White Loving relationships bring countless benefits; security, companionship, a partner that has your back and, if you are lucky, a true friend. Committed partnerships also enjoy a unique level of intimacy. But sometimes the heightened level of familiarity and hectic schedules can interfere with a sexual relationship. Sex can become predictable, routine or even a chore. It’s unlikely that you could recreate the frenzied intensity of the early days of

Have you lost interest in sex? Do you miss the energy you used to have for sensuality, intimacy or your partner? There are many things that can be done if you want to increase your sexual desire. First, understand why low sex drive happens. It can be caused by stress, relationship difficulties, medication side effects, or your diet. A lot of the causes of low libido can be changed, though sometimes you may need outside assistance. Related story: “ How to Break Out of a Bedro

A healthy, regular sex life has a number of physical health benefits. Now a new study shows that regular sex can keep you young, too. How Sex Can Keep You Young In addition to reducing stress, lowering blood pressure, reducing perceptions of pain, and boosting your immune system, researchers have recently discovered that women who have sex on a weekly basis have longer telomeres. What’s a Telomere? Telomeres are structures at the end of each DNA strand that affect how each o

Sexual desire is tied to our mental, emotional, and physical health. If you’re not getting the sex you want, you may be neglecting one or more of these areas of your life. You may need to take some steps to rekindle the spark in your relationship. Elite Daily recently published an article describing seven things you can change to improve your sex life. Exercise, eating healthy, and getting enough sleep are all important aspects of self care that can make you more receptive t

If you’re like me, you sleep with your cell phone next to your bed. You may even have a clock radio and/or a television in your bedroom. I know many of you work on your laptop sitting up propped on pillows with your legs under the covers. If any of these things are true, you may be harming your sex life. Your bedroom should be a sacred oasis, devoted either to sleep or sex. Nothing else. There should be no electronics, wires, or screens in your bedroom. Think about the effect

Is there such a thing as sex after kids? A lot of couples have a decrease in desire after the kids are born. Or there is a discrepancy, where one partner wants it more often than the other. Sometimes mom needs time to heal. Or she may have a difficult time with the transition from mother to lover. Or her body image is challenged after giving birth and she just doesn’t feel as sexy. Some couples struggle with finding enough erotic time in a new hectic that is controlled by a n

You have heard of ‘Seven Year Itch.’ It’s a measurement of time that people throw around to suggest marriage goes downhill after the first seven years. The phrase is not based on anything psychological or scientifically sound, it is not evidence or research based. In fact, the phrase was originally used to describe a contagious skin complaint. Later, the  Seven Year Itch  was a play by  George Axelrod  adapted in 1955 as a film with  Marilyn Monroe . The title described the i

Couples create low sex relationships. But it only takes one to get it up and running again. What Gets Your Partner “In the Mood?” Do More of That. One of the reasons for sexless partnerships, according a recent HuffPo article , is that partners may have mismatched sex initiation styles. What does this mean for you? You are killing your sex life. You aren’t paying attention to what gest your partner in the mood. In fact, you might be doing the opposite. While you may love to b

What is the number one thing that will guarantee you get the sex you want? Communicate. Before you have sex for the first time. Did you talk about sex with your partner before you did it with them for the first time? Did you share your sexual preferences, what you like to do and how you like to do it? Most people don’t. They fumble around and hope their partner figures out how to make them happy in bed. When they don’t, it can end a new relationship. Sex is an Important Topic

Sex Toys Aren’t Just Vibrators…or Just For Women Most people think of sex toys and think vibrators. And when we think of vibrators, we think of their many benefits for women. Now there are a number of devices on the market designed exclusively for men. These toys can be used alone or with a partner. Some of them are so future sex-tech that they connect to an app, and your partner can control their use. What Could a Sex Toy Do For You? There are still many stigmas for men to g