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This article picks up from Part 1 , where I talk about Will Smith’s revelations about his relationship with Jada Pinkett Smith and what...

Have you ever had an argument or a heated discussion and your partner says, “I get it?” It feels good in the moment but you really don’t...

Guest Post by Rachael Pace You’ve been divorced for some time now and you’re starting to feel the loneliness kick in. Then your friend asks the dreaded question, “When are you going to get back out there?” The very thought of it makes your blood run cold. But are your nerves truly justified? Dating after divorce is like entering a brave new world of opportunity. It isn’t always easy, comfortable, or stress-free, but the results can be so rewarding when done right. So, is ther

Sometimes it can be hard to tell if your relationship is actually headed for the rocks. Or you might suspect that, in fact, it’s already over. But is it just a normal part of a relationship to be in conflict sometimes? How do you know if it’s really in trouble? Most of us get uncomfortable thinking about ending any long term partnership. It’s super scary to leave a comfortable relationship even if it’s not fulfilling, even if we become unhappy or close to miserable. We stay i

A recent article, “ No More Struggle Porn, ” makes an excellent case for not buying into the myth that if you’re not struggling, you’re not doing the right thing to succeed at your chosen profession. I see a parallel in the world of amateur marriage advice. The Difference Between Struggling and Working Hard The article affirmed that working hard is not bad. The author takes issue with the idea that struggling is the same thing as working hard and that you have to struggle to

What is important in a relationship in order to create intimacy, a strong bond and a feeling of commitment? Most people value integrity, they want honesty and they wish their partner would be transparent about their feelings. But can you handle being really honest with your partner, about the hard stuff? And can you listen to things that might be difficult to hear? Sometimes it seems like everyone must be lying to their partner. So many marriages end because of it. The lies c

Has technology changed the way we view sex? The increase in technology has changed not only the way we view life, but who we are as people. The use of smart phones, computers, smart watches and other hand held devices has already turned us all into partial-hybrid-humans. As cyborgs sporting robotic extensions of our own bodies, high tech non-permanent partial attachments to our limbs, we are obligated to check in, to post, to swipe, to update, and to check out, almost all the

I’m so inspired by the words of wisdom from Cyan Banister, a young woman who went from high school dropout to successful, self-taught engineer, entrepreneur, and angel investor. She shared her advice on Business Insider on how to become successful in business. And it occurred to me that her suggestions work well for relationship success, as well. She self-disclosed her difficult path, which could have been seen as a failure in the business world, but she turned her history i

Everyone gets anxious before a big event. Making a major shift from one part of your life to another is what I call a threshold event. It’s normal to feel nervous before a graduation, a job change, or a wedding. A wedding is one of the top three major life adjustments you will ever have to make. Some people worry that this pre-wedding nervousness is a sign that something is wrong, either with themselves, their partner, or the idea of marriage itself. Most of the time, these n

All couples have arguments. Fighting with your spouse can be a good sign. It could mean that you feel comfortable enough to be open with them about your true feelings. The problems start when you don’t know how to express those feelings and you turn a disagreement into an argument and it escalates, turns hurtful, and then turns into a fight. And most of us have not been trained how to have a fair fight. How many of us have been taught conflict management and conflict resoluti