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The staff and faculty at the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute (ISTI) have been carefully monitoring the news around the repeal of Roe...

Have you ever heard of Female Orgasmic Disorder? This term describes a condition in which a woman is significantly distressed about her...

Has technology changed the way we view sex? The increase in technology has changed not only the way we view life, but who we are as people. The use of smart phones, computers, smart watches and other hand held devices has already turned us all into partial-hybrid-humans. As cyborgs sporting robotic extensions of our own bodies, high tech non-permanent partial attachments to our limbs, we are obligated to check in, to post, to swipe, to update, and to check out, almost all the

I was surprised by many statements in the recent article in America Magazine, “ #MeToo shows the dangers of ‘end-less’ sex. ‘Humane Vitae” shows the way forward. ” I think we need to think more about this idea of consent. What is consent and what does it have to do with sex? Does it justify all sexual behavior or does it lead the way to all great sex? What are we talking about when we talk about consent? How do feminists feel about consent? Does the idea of granting or gettin

In the wake of the #MeToo movement, many people are asking if sex addiction is real. Is out of control sexual conduct and compulsive or erratic sexual behavior a sigh of a “sexual addiction?” Does being sexually inappropriate and acting, reacting or perpetrating against someone sexually mean that, regardless of the circumstances, that person is not responsible for their actions if they are a “sex addict?” Does the label “addict” give someone an excuse to continue or excuse th

Photo by Laurenz Kleinheider on Unsplash How do you feel about porn? I don’t mean whether or not you personally consume porn, but rather — do you approve of it? Are you okay if your partner watches it? Masturbates to it? Do you watch it? Is it part of your relationship? Have your feelings ever undergone a shift in relation to pornography? For many, porn is a hot-button topic. You either hate it or you love it. You either approve of it or you think it’s going to ruin marriage

Have you lost interest in sex? Do you miss the energy you used to have for sensuality, intimacy or your partner? There are many things that can be done if you want to increase your sexual desire. First, understand why low sex drive happens. It can be caused by stress, relationship difficulties, medication side effects, or your diet. A lot of the causes of low libido can be changed, though sometimes you may need outside assistance. Related story: “ How to Break Out of a Bedro

Photo by  Samuel Zeller  on  Unsplash Have you heard of virtual reality pornography? This innovative technology allows you to totally immerse yourself into a pornographic scene. Putting on VR glasses allows you to interact directly with the characters. Is VR Porn Good or Bad? Does this intrigue you? Does it turn you off? Does it worry or alarm you? While many are eager to try it, many others have deep concerns about this new technology. What Are We Afraid Of? On the Future of

Porn has been vilified for decades as a destroyer of marriages, an addictive drug, and a quick way to ruin a good sex life by destroying your once pure fantasy life. And with the rise of internet porn, the idea that it is somehow “perilous to our health and happiness” has only grown, at least in some circles. But if you talk to people who work in or report on the industry, the reality seems to be much different. Does Porn Make People More Perverse? Lux Alptraum shared her exp

Do you talk to your children about sex and their bodies? If not, you could be unwittingly contributing to what I call a “low sense of vagina-esteem.” Research by the BBC shows that girls, as young as 9 are seeking cosmetic surgery for their labia. Labioplasty reduces and reshapes inner and outer vaginal lips, which for most of these girls is purely for appearance since they have no medical basis for the surgery. Girls, Disgusted By Their Vaginas, Seek Surgery These youngsters

Are you pleasure avoidant, rejecting, or denying? Have you ever thought about why? Here are three questions to help you determine if you have a pleasure disorder. Do you avoid taking vacations because you would rather work? Do you feel guilty when you take a few moments to relax? Do you find you need to be busy all the time? Many of us have been conditioned to think of pleasure leads to guilt. And that rest and relaxation are for slackers. I challenge that notion in my latest

Are Your Sexual Issues Damaging Your Relationship? Sometimes relationship issues cause problems in the bedroom. Ignoring these sexual issues can damage and might even end your relationship. Talk to your partner. Seek professional help if your relationship is suffering. Erotic Trust Can Be Repaired After an Affair A special challenge that I help couples overcome is repairing the erotic connection after an affair. Once trust has been broken, it can be hard to rekindle passion

We are in a culture in the U.S. that teaches ideas about sexuality that are antiquated, misogynistic, and outdated. Our educational system even produces trained psychotherapists who can hold unconscious and misguided biases and beliefs about sexuality. Unfortunately, these therapists may be unintentionally doing harm as a result of these unexamined myths. Are You a Therapist In Need of Sexuality Training? If you are a therapist and you haven’t taken a SAR (Sexual Attitude Rea

Sometimes it’s hard to know if it’s time to go. We’re told all relationships go through natural cycles of ups and downs. But sometimes relationships do fail. How do you know if you should end yours and when do you get out? There are signs and symptoms that things are coming to an end. It is important to recognize those signs so that you can find the energy to get out or ask for help if you need it. My recent expert advice in SheKnows warns you – are you in a dysfunctional or

You have discovered that you have been infected with an STD/STI. Now what? Sharing the news with an existing or prospective partner can be rough. If your relationship is solid or your prospective partner is worth it, the following tips may help you better cope with your future. Read my expert advice in this recent HuffPo article . #HuffPo #sex #STD #STI

Ever since the birth control pill came out in the 60s, the responsibility for preventing pregnancy has largely fallen on women. Yes, men often carry condoms, but too many avoid using them, bemoaning the loss of sensation. Now, there is finally a viable option of male birth control. A biomedical engineer in India has invented a substance that can be injected into the scrotum that interferes with the sperms’ ability to travel through the penis. It is 98% effective at preventing

A healthy and active sex life is important for overall physical, mental, and emotional health. It’s also great for your work productivity, according to a recent study . Unfortunately, work stress can get in the way of a regular sex life and many couples struggle to balance the demands of their busy lives with maintaining a healthy relationship. It’s important to find ways to stay connected and keep the erotic spark between you alive and exciting. We live in an era where we ar

“Youth across the US, and the entire world for that matter, deserve access to relevant, contemporary information about sex,” said Robert Parmer recently in Elite Daily . Rarely today is there mention of LGBTQI+ issues when sex education is offered in schools. The curriculum is usually heteronormative, gives little in the way of orientation education , and most LGBTQI+ youth are left feeling invisible, unworthy, and sometimes even wrong. These young people are then more ill-pr

What is the ‘BRO’ phenomenon? Dr. Joe Kort writes about a new app for straight men who want to have sex with men and who are clearly not...

Robert contacted me, frantic. His fiancée, Paula, is currently serving time in a southern state prison, and has so far served four months...