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Trauma, Affair, & Recovery: You Are Not Alone
When you discover that your partner cheated on you, it can feel like your world is ending. You rewrite the whole history of your...
How to Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair – Five Things to Think About
(An Excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats by Dr. Tammy Nelson) The following is an exercise to help you prepare to disclose an affair to your spouse. When revealing infidelity to your partner, it is important to handle the conversation with compassion. What you are about to tell them will undoubtedly be hurtful. You will need to show empathy and kindness when you tell your spouse about your affair. Think about the following five things before you begin. One. This conver
Before You Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair
(An Excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats by Dr. Tammy Nelson) If you’re having an affair, and you want to disclose the affair to your spouse before you are confronted, here’s an exercise that may help you prepare. Use the following steps to help guide you before revealing the affair to your partner. You’ll want to handle this delicate conversation with respect, dignity and compassion. Remember, what you’re about to reveal to your spouse will undoubtedly hurt; you’ll ne
Sex, Money, Lies, and Marriage
What is important in a relationship in order to create intimacy, a strong bond and a feeling of commitment? Most people value integrity, they want honesty and they wish their partner would be transparent about their feelings. But can you handle being really honest with your partner, about the hard stuff? And can you listen to things that might be difficult to hear? Sometimes it seems like everyone must be lying to their partner. So many marriages end because of it. The lies c
Understanding Infidelity & How to Recover From It
Defining infidelity seems simple. Having sex with someone outside of your committed partnership means cheating, right? But today an affair can be tricky to define and identify. Below I share a selection of my articles and videos that can help you define what infidelity is, how to end an affair when you or your partner find yourself embroiled in one, and how to help your relationship recover after infidelity has rocked your monogamy. What is an Affair? At its most basic, infid
Be Stronger After an Affair
Infidelity happens for many reasons. It can be painful, confusing and hard to recover if you choose to stay together after the affair. But if you have been through it, you know that sometimes there is a hidden gift inside infidelity recovery. It can be an opportunity to dive deep into understanding your relationship with your partner. You can choose to consciously co-create a new, more satisfying relationship going forward. Of course, it will take work, time, and the desire t
Can Your Relationship Really Survive Infidelity?
You thought your relationship with your partner was perfect. Happily ever after wasn’t just a dream, it was your reality. Then, suddenly,...
3 Steps To Ending An Affair
My latest article on Huffington Post addresses what to do when you want to end an affair and move on: You are still hiding the affair. In...
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