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When You’re the One Who Cheats is available from Amazon.com ! bit.ly/whenyoucheat An excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats © RL...

An excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats © RL Publishing 2019 By Dr Tammy Nelson As an exploratory exercise, and to do research for this book , I logged onto one of the more popular “married but dating” websites, Ashley Madison, a website where married people meet other married people to have an affair. There are 54 million people worldwide on the website, and I wanted to know what was drawing so many people to the cheating site. I created a couple of profiles for myse

(An Excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats by Dr. Tammy Nelson) The following is an exercise to help you prepare to disclose an affair to your spouse. When revealing infidelity to your partner, it is important to handle the conversation with compassion. What you are about to tell them will undoubtedly be hurtful. You will need to show empathy and kindness when you tell your spouse about your affair. Think about the following five things before you begin. One. This conver

(An Excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats by Dr. Tammy Nelson) If you’re having an affair, and you want to disclose the affair to your spouse before you are confronted, here’s an exercise that may help you prepare. Use the following steps to help guide you before revealing the affair to your partner. You’ll want to handle this delicate conversation with respect, dignity and compassion. Remember, what you’re about to reveal to your spouse will undoubtedly hurt; you’ll ne

The “Casual Dating Affair” is one that evolves slowly. It sneaks up on you. Perhaps this has happened to you. You’re only going out for drinks, or for lunch, or for an occasional “business” dinner, with a friend or colleague. You’ve had a few of these get-togethers. This kind of casual relationship begins to turn into something more. You find yourself attracted to this person, you enjoy their company, you want to spend more time together. You text after dinner to say thanks.

Twenty five to sixty five percent of people cheat at some point in their marriage. The results of infidelity research are non-conclusive: we aren’t really sure exactly how many people cheat. Cheating is based on dishonesty, and those polled lie even to the researchers. When Do They Communicate? We do know that between 8 and 9 am on Monday mornings is apparently the most likely time that cheaters will communicate with their lovers. The site, Illicit Encounters, designed to fac

The Internet is often brought up in couples conflicts and blamed for infidelity. There are more ways to cheat today than ever before. What Counts as Cheating? And each couple may define cheating differently. The types of infidelity can range from secretly viewing online porn, to chatting privately with ex partners, to seeking out new people on dating apps, or even to having a full-blown online affair, through a webcam where you can have both a sexual and an emotional relatio

You thought your relationship with your partner was perfect. Happily ever after wasn’t just a dream, it was your reality. Then, suddenly,...