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Nick Levine recently wrote in Vice Magazine What Is ‘Radical Monogamy’ ? Reflexive monogamy is an assumption we make that we’ll find our...

Being in a relationship is the most challenging part of being alive. We strugg le to connect and at the same time, we want the freedom...

An excerpt from When You’re the One Who Cheats © RL Publishing 2019 By Dr Tammy Nelson “Twenty percent of adults have practiced consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives” – Wednesday Martin, Author of Untrue Marriage is evolving, adapting to our 21st-century sensibilities. You could have your cake and eat it, too. And why shouldn’t you? Most people, if they could arrange it, would want the cake and the marriage, too. But could you have it if you discussed it op

Guest Post by Rachael Pace You’ve been divorced for some time now and you’re starting to feel the loneliness kick in. Then your friend asks the dreaded question, “When are you going to get back out there?” The very thought of it makes your blood run cold. But are your nerves truly justified? Dating after divorce is like entering a brave new world of opportunity. It isn’t always easy, comfortable, or stress-free, but the results can be so rewarding when done right. So, is ther

Everyone gets anxious before a big event. Making a major shift from one part of your life to another is what I call a threshold event. It’s normal to feel nervous before a graduation, a job change, or a wedding. A wedding is one of the top three major life adjustments you will ever have to make. Some people worry that this pre-wedding nervousness is a sign that something is wrong, either with themselves, their partner, or the idea of marriage itself. Most of the time, these n

Wedding season is almost upon us. Will you be tying the knot? If so, I’m sure you’re receiving tons of advice. But there are several things that people don’t typically tell the soon-to-be-married. I was interviewed recently by Wedding Wire and asked what I think are five things no one tells you about your first year of marriage. The quote they used was the fifth on my list (see below). Here’s the rest of what I told them. #1: Living Together is Wonderful No one tells you th

You have heard of ‘Seven Year Itch.’ It’s a measurement of time that people throw around to suggest marriage goes downhill after the first seven years. The phrase is not based on anything psychological or scientifically sound, it is not evidence or research based. In fact, the phrase was originally used to describe a contagious skin complaint. Later, the  Seven Year Itch  was a play by  George Axelrod  adapted in 1955 as a film with  Marilyn Monroe . The title described the i

In the next video for YourTango, John Gray, LiYana Silver, Debi Berndt and I continue our discussion with what makes monogamy work. Are...

You thought your relationship with your partner was perfect. Happily ever after wasn’t just a dream, it was your reality. Then, suddenly,...

The bestselling book, “Getting the Love You Want” written by Harville Hendrix, teaches couples a powerful form of healing that Hendrix...

My latest article on Huffington Post addresses what to do when you want to end an affair and move on: You are still hiding the affair. In...