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How to Clear Your Mind-Field: We are at war. Do not kid yourself. Hate is everywhere. Open your social media, turn on the news. Hate is the Third World War. Hate is insidious. It is hard to fight hate. Because hate does not have a face, or a religion or an ethnicity. Hate is not a country. But hate does have a state. It is a State-of-Mind . If you live in a state of hate, you probably have some deep hate-bombs exploding in your mind. Hate has power. When you cannot feel empat

Read the full article on finding head space with less and less personal space on Thrive Global. I travel a lot. I find that I am away from October to May most years. I speak to groups of therapists, coaches, counselors, and couples about how to how to heal their relationships and find passion. That’s all wonderful. But it’s squishy. My job is to create space for people. I bring people a safe experience, a world in which they can feel seen, heard, believed. And I begin to cr

I am a Board Certified Sexologist and a Certified Sex Therapist. For many of you this means very little, other than I am licensed and certified to treat couples and individuals with sexual “issues.” But what does this really mean and why is it important for someone who thinks they have a “sex addiction” ? I have a PhD doctorate degree in Sexology. I have years and years of post graduate training in sexual behavior, dysfunction, pathology and sexual health. I have been supervi

I’m excited to begin contributing to Thrive Global . Check out an excerpt of my first article below, or read the full article here . Arguments erupted over the Thanksgiving dinner table all across America this past week. This was a scene from one friends holiday: Grandpa carved the turkey dinner, waving the knife in the air and fighting off the vitriol about his vote for Trump. Aunt Maureen blasted him and demanded a recount in Wisconsin. All of the cousins swore and shouted;

New study released today – John Hopkins and NYU Psilocybin reduces anxiety in cancer patients: Two days ago – FDA agrees to New Trials of MDMA for Relief for PTSD patients: My guess is treatment for many mental health dilemmas will include alternative hallucinogenics and empathogens in the near future. I am sure we will hear more as studies continue. Perhaps the legalization of recreational marijuana in eight states and medical marijuana in half the country is creating an at

I was deeply touched by Raphael Cushir’s If You Are In Electoral Distress. What really strikes me about Raphael’s poem is what he says at the end: Remember who you are. Remember where you come from. Remember your tribe. Bow to your tribe. Tune out the noise. Listen for the signals. Be ready to heed them. Be ready to act. Swiftly. But not yet. Right now… In this very moment… Rest up. It makes me feel empowered. It makes me feel hope. Frankly, this change in our pow

Where is our integrity? It seems we have regressed in this country to boys and girls fighting on the third grade playground. And there are no good role models on this playground. It is time to grow up. What we are seeing in politics is not just the blatant misuse of power by a male figure who is at risk of obtaining even more power, but a gross abuse of that power. A man who has visibility, platform and an audience (that follows him blindly) has a responsibility; he is a powe

We’ve all heard the same, tired cliche about infidelity: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” Given how many of us are affected by infidelity ― twenty-one percent of married men and around 15 percent of married women have cheated on their spouses, according to the General Social Survey at the University of Chicago― it’s worth exploring our beliefs about cheaters and their capacity for change. Does “once a cheater, always a cheater” always ring true? Below, psychologists and th

Ex- Rep. Anthony Weiner (D-N.Y.) gave up a promising political career after his sexual scandal broke and he couldn’t stop sexting his weiner photos. We have all made jokes about this, myself included. Today, Huma Abedin, Clinton’s top aide, said she has taken enough, and she is ending their marriage. Weiner apparently sent lurid tweets and photos of his crotch to yet another woman and reportedly one of the photos was of him in bed, with his sleeping young son in the backgroun