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Are Your Sexual Issues Damaging Your Relationship? Sometimes relationship issues cause problems in the bedroom. Ignoring these sexual issues can damage and might even end your relationship. Talk to your partner. Seek professional help if your relationship is suffering. Erotic Trust Can Be Repaired After an Affair A special challenge that I help couples overcome is repairing the erotic connection after an affair. Once trust has been broken, it can be hard to rekindle passion

We are in a culture in the U.S. that teaches ideas about sexuality that are antiquated, misogynistic, and outdated. Our educational system even produces trained psychotherapists who can hold unconscious and misguided biases and beliefs about sexuality. Unfortunately, these therapists may be unintentionally doing harm as a result of these unexamined myths. Are You a Therapist In Need of Sexuality Training? If you are a therapist and you haven’t taken a SAR (Sexual Attitude Rea

Many things could be causing conflict in your relationship, but issues around sex and desire might be the biggest reason. Conversations around sex are often avoided but they might actually be the cause of your arguments over other less important things. Some couples have mismatched desires for sex. Others have unspoken assumptions about desire. These can lead to feelings of anger, shame, disappointment, and a longing for connection. However, many people feel they don’t have t

When men were surveyed in a study, they reported that they thought that “…it should take women no more than four minutes of direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm…” Anatomically, it takes women an average of eight to thirty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. However, this is not the fault of men or even a result of their ignorance. I blame women for this one. In fact, up to 80 percent of women fake orgasms. Many do it because they are unaware of

Lisa Lawless is right : Vibrators can enhance a woman’s sex life. There are a lot of obstacles in life to having great sex. Why shouldn’t more women consider giving a vibrator a try? The intense vibrations from sex devices can cause pleasurable sensations that often lead to quick and powerful orgasms. These same vibrations help to bring more blood flow to the vulva area, making the female body healthier and making sex more pleasurable. And here’s a bonus – all of this can hel

A healthy and active sex life is important for overall physical, mental, and emotional health. It’s also great for your work productivity, according to a recent study . Unfortunately, work stress can get in the way of a regular sex life and many couples struggle to balance the demands of their busy lives with maintaining a healthy relationship. It’s important to find ways to stay connected and keep the erotic spark between you alive and exciting. We live in an era where we ar

Americans of all ages are having sex less frequently than previous generations. Although the reasons are unclear, a recent study posted on the Today Show website and in the Washington Post , reports that even Millenials are having less sex with fewer partners. Couples used to report more sex than their single peers but are now saying they have erotic interactions less often. While many factors can contribute to low-sex/no-sex relationships, a primary culprit is the lack of c

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TIME Magazine posed this important question to content creators and thought leaders for yesterday’s Question Everything issue. It’s an...

In the media we often hear horror stories of celebrities’ or politician’s nude photos or sexy text conversations being leaked to the...

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I love to support friends and colleagues who are leaders in changing how we talk about sex within couples therapy. Barry McCarthy is...

I’m in The New York Times! First, in Fashion & Style online: online: First Comes Sex Talk With These Renegades of Couples Therapy by Amy...

I’m honored to share with you that I’m this week’s featured guest on Elloa Atkinson’s podcast, The Academy of Miracles! Elloa and I...

If you want great sex, you have to have a great relationship. In a recent panel discussion I hosted for YourTango, Harville Hendrix,...

I’m really excited to hear about innovation in the world of condom design: a built in vibrator to provide pleasure for women. Yes, we’ve...