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A recent article, “ No More Struggle Porn, ” makes an excellent case for not buying into the myth that if you’re not struggling, you’re not doing the right thing to succeed at your chosen profession. I see a parallel in the world of amateur marriage advice. The Difference Between Struggling and Working Hard The article affirmed that working hard is not bad. The author takes issue with the idea that struggling is the same thing as working hard and that you have to struggle to

A lot of people are in relationships that they like, with partners they are attracted to, who want sex and enjoy intimacy. But life gets...

Have you ever developed a close relationship with a colleague who you called your “work spouse?” Have you ever thought about allowing (or did allow) that relationship to cross over into something more? If so, then you have likely experienced what I call “vicinity attraction.” We spend so much of our waking hours at work. It makes sense that we would develop close working relationships. And sometimes sexual attraction happens when we spend so much time with people we like and

According to Ashley Madison’s recent survey, only 67% of both men and women said they felt comfortable telling their sexual fantasies to their spouse, while nearly all (95%) said they talked about their sexual fantasies with their affair partner. Most of the survey respondents also said they were more sexually adventurous with their affair partners and comfortable talking about sex during their affair. It would make sense that to have a sexually fulfilling marriage or ongoing

What is important in a relationship in order to create intimacy, a strong bond and a feeling of commitment? Most people value integrity, they want honesty and they wish their partner would be transparent about their feelings. But can you handle being really honest with your partner, about the hard stuff? And can you listen to things that might be difficult to hear? Sometimes it seems like everyone must be lying to their partner. So many marriages end because of it. The lies c

Ashley Madison recently revealed that more men sign up for their online dating site during the month of October than any other month of the year. Ashley Madison is a website for married people to find other married people to date. I shared several reasons in their article why I thought this might be so. One reason? October is the start of “cuffing season.” What is Cuffing Season? Cuffing season is the time of year when people turn toward each other for warmth and companionshi

Has technology changed the way we view sex? The increase in technology has changed not only the way we view life, but who we are as people. The use of smart phones, computers, smart watches and other hand held devices has already turned us all into partial-hybrid-humans. As cyborgs sporting robotic extensions of our own bodies, high tech non-permanent partial attachments to our limbs, we are obligated to check in, to post, to swipe, to update, and to check out, almost all the

I’m so inspired by the words of wisdom from Cyan Banister, a young woman who went from high school dropout to successful, self-taught engineer, entrepreneur, and angel investor. She shared her advice on Business Insider on how to become successful in business. And it occurred to me that her suggestions work well for relationship success, as well. She self-disclosed her difficult path, which could have been seen as a failure in the business world, but she turned her history i

Everyone gets anxious before a big event. Making a major shift from one part of your life to another is what I call a threshold event. It’s normal to feel nervous before a graduation, a job change, or a wedding. A wedding is one of the top three major life adjustments you will ever have to make. Some people worry that this pre-wedding nervousness is a sign that something is wrong, either with themselves, their partner, or the idea of marriage itself. Most of the time, these n