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Photo by Alexander Solodukhin on Unsplash Open relationships are becoming more common every day. They’re also gradually becoming more accepted. However, hidden biases can show up in the words we use to talk about open relationships. Forever 39 Podcast cited a study from 2016, where four percent of respondents “admitted” they’d had an open relationship. While “more than half indicated they are morally opposed to the idea,” another 44% said “the request wouldn’t be an automat

Photo by  Samuel Zeller  on  Unsplash Have you heard of virtual reality pornography? This innovative technology allows you to totally immerse yourself into a pornographic scene. Putting on VR glasses allows you to interact directly with the characters. Is VR Porn Good or Bad? Does this intrigue you? Does it turn you off? Does it worry or alarm you? While many are eager to try it, many others have deep concerns about this new technology. What Are We Afraid Of? On the Future of

It’s been over a month since Hurricane Harvey slammed into southeast Texas and devastated Houston and the surrounding area. Unfortunately, when Irma and Maria showed up, the national news coverage shifted away from the recovery efforts in Houston. We stopped seeing the reactions of people returning to their now-destroyed homes. The news was focusing more on the impending threat of the next storms. The piles of refuse lining the streets of Houston neighborhoods took a back sea

A healthy, regular sex life has a number of physical health benefits. Now a new study shows that regular sex can keep you young, too. How Sex Can Keep You Young In addition to reducing stress, lowering blood pressure, reducing perceptions of pain, and boosting your immune system, researchers have recently discovered that women who have sex on a weekly basis have longer telomeres. What’s a Telomere? Telomeres are structures at the end of each DNA strand that affect how each o

Sexual desire is tied to our mental, emotional, and physical health. If you’re not getting the sex you want, you may be neglecting one or more of these areas of your life. You may need to take some steps to rekindle the spark in your relationship. Elite Daily recently published an article describing seven things you can change to improve your sex life. Exercise, eating healthy, and getting enough sleep are all important aspects of self care that can make you more receptive t

If you’re like me, you sleep with your cell phone next to your bed. You may even have a clock radio and/or a television in your bedroom. I know many of you work on your laptop sitting up propped on pillows with your legs under the covers. If any of these things are true, you may be harming your sex life. Your bedroom should be a sacred oasis, devoted either to sleep or sex. Nothing else. There should be no electronics, wires, or screens in your bedroom. Think about the effect

Is there such a thing as sex after kids? A lot of couples have a decrease in desire after the kids are born. Or there is a discrepancy, where one partner wants it more often than the other. Sometimes mom needs time to heal. Or she may have a difficult time with the transition from mother to lover. Or her body image is challenged after giving birth and she just doesn’t feel as sexy. Some couples struggle with finding enough erotic time in a new hectic that is controlled by a n

Wow, just a few weeks ago, I earned the #43 spot on Feedspot’s Top 100 Psychotherapy Blog list. Now, I’m at #37 on their list of Top 100 Marriage Counseling blogs . Since marriage counseling is one of my specialties, I am even more honored by this ranking. Thank you to all of you, my readers, for making it happen. Feedspot’s editorial team included me in the list along with featured master therapists John Gottman and Sue Johnson. The criteria used to determine who makes the

You have heard of ‘Seven Year Itch.’ It’s a measurement of time that people throw around to suggest marriage goes downhill after the first seven years. The phrase is not based on anything psychological or scientifically sound, it is not evidence or research based. In fact, the phrase was originally used to describe a contagious skin complaint. Later, the  Seven Year Itch  was a play by  George Axelrod  adapted in 1955 as a film with  Marilyn Monroe . The title described the i