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Lots of couples go through it. Not everyone blogs about it. And very few post photos. In a recent piece by Yolonda Jones, both blog and photos show how powerful and poignant the process of recovering from an affair can be, fore both partners. Her words are raw and transparent. She writes directly about her devastation and what really happens in the wake of a betrayal. She unpacks the rollercoaster of their ride through PTSD and how they both managed. One of the most moving e

Sex Toys Aren’t Just Vibrators…or Just For Women Most people think of sex toys and think vibrators. And when we think of vibrators, we think of their many benefits for women. Now there are a number of devices on the market designed exclusively for men. These toys can be used alone or with a partner. Some of them are so future sex-tech that they connect to an app, and your partner can control their use. What Could a Sex Toy Do For You? There are still many stigmas for men to g

Which is Better: Monogamy or Nonmonogamy? Open marriages and polyamory are being hotly debated in the mainstream today. There are valid and viable reasons to stay monogamous and also many alternatives to traditional monogamy. The stereotypical perception of open marriage is that it is a form of infidelity and can be hurtful to a marriage. Yet many open and fluid arrangements are healthy and fulfilling, some more than traditional monogamous marriages. If You’re Opening Your Re

Are you pleasure avoidant, rejecting, or denying? Have you ever thought about why? Here are three questions to help you determine if you have a pleasure disorder. Do you avoid taking vacations because you would rather work? Do you feel guilty when you take a few moments to relax? Do you find you need to be busy all the time? Many of us have been conditioned to think of pleasure leads to guilt. And that rest and relaxation are for slackers. I challenge that notion in my latest

Are Your Sexual Issues Damaging Your Relationship? Sometimes relationship issues cause problems in the bedroom. Ignoring these sexual issues can damage and might even end your relationship. Talk to your partner. Seek professional help if your relationship is suffering. Erotic Trust Can Be Repaired After an Affair A special challenge that I help couples overcome is repairing the erotic connection after an affair. Once trust has been broken, it can be hard to rekindle passion

The Internet is often brought up in couples conflicts and blamed for infidelity. There are more ways to cheat today than ever before. What Counts as Cheating? And each couple may define cheating differently. The types of infidelity can range from secretly viewing online porn, to chatting privately with ex partners, to seeking out new people on dating apps, or even to having a full-blown online affair, through a webcam where you can have both a sexual and an emotional relatio

The recent New York Times Magazine article, “ Is an Open Marriage a Happier Marriage? ” has opened a national conversation about the controversial practice of consensual nonmonogamy. Change Can Be Scary Although a lot of the comments on that article were from readers who felt shocked and threatened by this new narrative, it makes sense that they responded with fear. Many people are afraid of change. And the comments on the article are revealing. They are an indication of jus

We are in a culture in the U.S. that teaches ideas about sexuality that are antiquated, misogynistic, and outdated. Our educational system even produces trained psychotherapists who can hold unconscious and misguided biases and beliefs about sexuality. Unfortunately, these therapists may be unintentionally doing harm as a result of these unexamined myths. Are You a Therapist In Need of Sexuality Training? If you are a therapist and you haven’t taken a SAR (Sexual Attitude Rea

The idea of an open marriage may be new to many , but there have been people practicing some form of open marriage, or marriage with multiple partners, for decades. And in fact, many people are in marriages with multiple partners, they just don’t know about it. We call this cheating in our culture. Open Marriage is More Honest The recent New York Times Magazine article, titled “Is an Open Marriage a Happier Marriage,” reveals that increasing numbers of people are practicing